A repost: Making a CFM Disciple
- Making a CFM Disciple
One of the safest places to be in a CFM church is standing next to a
new convert. Why is that? Once you understand the pattern of
discipleship in Christian Fellowship Ministries you'll understand.
The word disciple is mentioned 29 times in the bible. The
term has been defined as:" A disciple (from the Latin discipulus, a
pupil) is one who receives instruction from another; a scholar; a
learner; especially, a follower who has learned to believe in the
truth of the doctrine of his teacher, and implies that the pupil is
under the discipline of, and "understands", his teacher; an adherent
in doctrine." In CFM disciple has been shortened to mean "learner
and follower". Often a disciple in CFM is told by his pastor
to "follow me as I follow Christ." The suggestion is that a disciple
is to ultimately be a learner and follower of Jesus Christ. Nothing
could be further from the truth.
The making of a disciple in CFM has many steps. While the
implication is that he will be trained to follow Christ, the reality
is that he will be trained to follow his pastor. If the training is
done correctly, the CFM disciple will be similar to Jonathan's
armourbearer mentioned in 1 Sam 14: 7
1 Sam 14:6-7
6 And Jonathan said to the young man that bare his armour, Come, and
let us go over unto the garrison of these uncircumcised: it may be
that the LORD will work for us: for there is no restraint to the
LORD to save by many or by few.
7 And his armourbearer said unto him, Do all that is in thine heart:
turn thee; behold, I am with thee according to thy heart.
The objective of the CFM pastor, with regard to discipleship, is to
create men that will serve him in every respect.
As mentioned there are many steps to create a CFM disciple.
These are but a few of those steps:
First and foremost a disciple is male. (CFM will not
disciple women.) It is preferred that this male be between the ages
of 18 and 26. Younger than 18 makes him a minor and dangerous to
work with given the tactics CFM uses. If he is over 26, there is a
chance he is too set in his ways to be effectively discipled. In
other words, the older he is the more apt he is to have critical
thinking abilities. A man able to think for himself is dangerous to
While marriage is not a disqualifier, a single male is
preferred. If a couple comes in and gets saved, especially if they
have been married for any length of time, discipleship is
difficult. A good disciple will give 20+ hours a week to the
church. While the man may well be willing to do this, his wife may
not agree with the separation and therefore he will be pulled from
two ends. CFM prefers young single men. Ideally a young single man
can be trained to jump at every utterance of his pastor before he is
allowed to date within the church. (Yes, I said allowed. No
disciple is allowed to date without the pastor's permission. Only
on rare occasion will he be allowed to date outside of his own
church. Never will he be allowed to date anyone out side of the
fellowship. To do so is to be "unequally yoked" in CFM.)
The perfect candidate is a young man that gets saved in CFM
after answering an altar call at the end of a service. This person
is ideal because he has admitted he is a sinner, God has softened
his heart and he is at his most pliable state. At this point he is
open to allow an older disciple to come up beside him and nurture
him in the ways of his pastor. The new convert will be taught,
through fellowship with the older disciple, that it is because of
pastor, the church and CFM that he is now saved. He will be taught
to feel beholden to his church for this great gift. He will be
instructed that if he wants to stay saved, there are things he will
need to do. At this point in his young life as a Christian the
requirements are to just attend church. This is just the beginning.
In the first 30 to 90 days of a new convert's life in CFM he
is the hero of the church. Everyone will bury him in love.
Virtually all offenses will be over looked. This is why being
around a new convert is the safest place for an older disciple.
While Pastor may want to discipline the older convert, he won't do
it around the new convert. To do so might scare off the new
Around the 90 day mark the new convert should be used to
attending every church service. He is probably also attending most
outreaches, Saturday night concerts and in a home bible study. He
might have been moved into a "boys home" as well. It is at this
point he will be allowed to see a little of the harsher side of a
CFM pastor. Instead of waiting till the new convert is gone, Pastor
will start dealing with issues in front of the new convert. Pastor
will start telling other disciples how rebellious they are growing.
He will deal with minor dating infractions like how a dating
disciple was seen taking to his girlfriend after church in the
parking lot, or how they were seen together in public at a
McDonalds. The new convert will see that there are standards and
consequences. He is still safe at this point.
Every new convert will have an older convert/disciple
assigned to him. This is an older disciple that spends a tremendous
amount of time with the new convert gaining his trust. Around the
120 day point Pastor will "pop" or "deal with" the older disciple
while the new convert watches. (Notice the methodical progression,
or pattern, of discipline in proximity to the new convert.) The
older convert, not wishing to have his head handed to him later,
will respond to this light disciplining with great respect and
admiration for the close attention that he has just received from
his pastor. The progression will continue until the older disciple
is getting verbally assaulted by the pastor as an example.
Sometimes as a precursor the pastor will deal harshly with the older
convert about something the new convert has done. This is very
effective in making the new convert feel responsible and more likely
to take the heat himself the next time. There will be a next time.
If for some reason the new convert starts to feel stressed
and that he cannot continue. The "out of God's will" card will be
played. He will be told "that it is not by accident that he is at
that church." "If he leaves, he will be out of God's will and
walking away from his destiny and eventually lose his salvation.'
The premise is that it is better to deal with an angry pastor than
an angry God. By this point in the new convert's life he is
convinced that God has called him to pastor a church. If he leaves
now, that will never happen. This is not discipleship. This is
This progression of "discipline" will continue until pastor
can address the new convert openly without worrying if he will run.
The pattern is this way for a reason. Pastor has an agenda. He is
there to build a church big enough to allow him to go on staff full
time (quit working), be able to travel and preach for love offerings
(See the world on the church's dime while he gets paid from other
CFM offerings), and to go to his home church and be idolized as a
success (the ideal success for a former man pleaser himself.). He
will accomplish these things if, and only if, he has men that fear
him enough to take care of things while he is away. The pastor is a
success if he has raised men pleasers to serve in his absence.
Defining a CFM disciple:
o Will drop everything if Pastor calls
o Will altar all previous engagements if he thinks Pastor
might need him
o Will be willing to walk away from anything, including his
marriage and family if he believes it will please his pastor.
o Willing to be publicly humiliated by his pastor without
o Will volunteer for all ministries without regard to family
o Is convinced he is called to be a pastor himself
o Will break up with any girl he has been permitted to date if
his pastor suggests she might be trying to get between him and the
o Considers harsh discipline to a blessing even if it is done
o Willing to "compass sea and land to make one disciple, and
when he is made, make him twofold more the child of hell than
himself." Mat 23:16
o In summary a CFM disciple is one that has been manipulated
into serving a man out of fear for his own salvation. He may claim
to honor God with his words, but it is his deeds that proclaim
Pastor, his true god, from the mountain tops.