1224A Sailor’s Dying Wi sh is Fulfilled in th e Most Legendary of W ays
- Dec 17, 2013Good morning. Great piece on Facebook this morning that is worth a read and reflection. I was caught by the phrase "They didn’t just talk to him, they listened." Please reach out to a veteran or two during the Holiday Season and listen to their stories and pass them onto your friends and family. Those of you who are Knights of Columbus, we have a rare privilege to do this on January 18th in Martinsburg, VA. Please consider joining us that day. We are still collecting Sweat outfits for distribution that day. If you can help out - give me a call and we'll arrange a pickup. We plan to wrap the 600+ Sweat outfits on December 28th.
Merry Christmas Brother Knights
Jay McCarthy, FDD, PGK, PFN
A Sailor’s Dying Wish is Fulfilled in the Most Legendary of Ways
On December 17, 2013
As someone whose Navy veteran father recently passed away, I know personally that he was never prouder of anything in his life than his military service. That is one reason I find this story so moving. I hope you will, too.
The account is of a “sailor’s dying wish,” that of Bud Cloud, a veteran of the U.S. Navy who passed away last June after having been enrolled in hospice care by his daughter. Cloud’s request to the U.S. Navy… well, I’ll let her daughter Jennie Haskamp, herself a Marine veteran, tell the story:
After signing my Pop, EM2 Bud Cloud (circa Pearl Harbor) up for hospice care, the consolation prize I’d given him (for agreeing it was OK to die) was a trip to “visit the Navy in San Diego.”
I emailed my friend and former Marine sergeant, Mrs. Mandy McCammon, who’s currently serving as a Navy Public Affairs Officer, at midnight on 28 May. I asked Mandy if she had enough pull on any of the bases in San Diego to get me access for the day so I could give Bud, who served on USS Dewey (DD-349), a windshield tour.
The next day she sent me an email from the current USS Dewey (DDG 105)’s XO, CDR Mikael Rockstad, inviting us down to the ship two days later.
As is so typical of the U.S. armed forces, what happened next went beyond expectations:
We linked up with Mandy outside Naval Base San Diego and carpooled to the pier where we were greeted by CMDCM Joe Grgetich and a squad-sized group of Sailors. Bud started to cry before the doors of the van opened. He’d been oohing and pointing at the cyclic rate as we approached the pier, but when we slowed down and Mandy said, “They’re all here for you, Bud,” he was overwhelmed.
After we were all out of the van directly in front of the Dewey, shaking hands and exchanging pleasantries, Petty Officer Simon introduced himself and said as the ship’s Sailor of the Year he had the honor of pushing Bud’s wheelchair for the day. Unbeknownst to us, they’d decided to host Bud aboard the Dewey, not at the Dewey. And so they carried him aboard. None of us expected him to go aboard the ship. I’d told him we were going down to the base and would have the chance to meet and greet a few of the Sailors from the new Dewey. He was ecstatic. The day before, he asked every few hours if we were “still going down to visit the boys from the Dewey,” and “do they know I was on the Dewey, too?”
Once aboard, we were greeted by the CO, CDR Jake Douglas, the XO and a reinforced platoon-sized group of Sailors. To say it was overwhelming is an understatement. These men and women waited in line to introduce themselves to Bud. They shook his hand, asked for photos with him, and swapped stories. It was simply amazing.
They didn’t just talk to him, they listened.
That is one thing the U.S. military needs to get more credit for in the culture: it teaches respect for our elders and the honor that is needed to protect the nation; not just in a strict military sense, but in terms of preserving respect in society. The sailors’ treatment of EM2 Cloud is illustrative:
Bud’s voice was little more than a weak whisper at this point and he’d tell a story and then GMC Eisman or GSCS Whynot would repeat it so all of the Sailors on deck could hear. In the midst of the conversations, Petty Officer Flores broke contact with the group. Bud was telling a story and CMDCM Grgetich was repeating the details when Flores walked back into view holding a huge photo of the original USS Dewey. That moment was priceless. Bud stopped mid-sentence and yelled, “There she is!” They patiently stood there holding the photo while he told them about her armament, described the way it listed after it was hit, and shared other details about the attacks on Pearl Harbor.
Bud finally admitted how tired he was after more than an hour on deck. While they were finishing up goodbyes and taking last minute photographs, GMC Eisman asked if it’d be OK to bring Sailors up to visit Bud in a few months after a Chief’s board. I hadn’t said it yet because I didn’t want it to dampen the spirit of the day, but I quietly explained to GMC Eisman the reason we’d asked for the visit was simple: Bud was dying.
I told him they were welcome to come up any time they wanted, but I suspected Bud had about a month left to live. Almost without hesitation, he asked if the crew could provide the burial honors when the time came. I assured him that’d be an honor we’d welcome.
Leaving the ship was possibly more emotional than boarding.
Jennie Haskamp regales us with the heart-wrenching and inspiring details of what happened:
He died 13 days later. For 12 of those 13 days he talked about the Dewey, her Sailors and his visit to San Diego. Everyone who came to the house had to hear the story, see the photos, hold the coins, read the plaques.
True to his word, GMC Eisman arranged the details for a full honors burial. The ceremony was simple yet magnificent. And a perfect sendoff for an ornery old guy who never, ever stopped being proud to be a Sailor. After the funeral, the Sailors came back to the house for the reception and spent an hour with the family. This may seem like a small detail, but it’s another example of them going above and beyond the call of duty, and it meant more to the family than I can explain.
Haskamp tells us what her father thought of the experience with the sailors on the U.S.S. Dewey: “This is the best day of my life, daughter. I never in my whole life dreamed I’d step foot on the Dewey again or shake the hand of a real life Sailor.”
She concludes, “Without question, it’s the best example of Semper Fidelis I’ve ever seen.”