Re: [CostaRicaLiving] the youngsters
- Thanks!!! That's exactly what I was thinking. I find
Mo's thoughts very disfunctional.I grew up in Berkeley
in a university environment, but experienced and very
much believed that the world was going in a way that I
did not agree with. Peace!! What a concept. Still
valid today and one of the reasons we are going to
move, buy property and live in a country that is
peaceful. Gimme? I didn't ask for anything, raised two
great kids who certainly are not on the side of the
road begging as Mo suggested. I am done giving that
guy one more minute of my time. Sincerely, Nancy
- Quoting many here:
"I think if someone was to poll most of the Costa Rican kids,
and they were honest about it they would tell you they all want
to emulate the kids in the US."
One doesn't even need to ask the kids in order to see the impact
of U.S. and European movies and U.S. television shows on their
lives. I bet the emulation isn't even conscious for most of them,
though most who have learned and/or perfected their English
this way seem to be well aware of it.
It blew my mind to see how alike teenagers and young adults in
Costa Rica are to those in the U.S., including the seemingly
permanently attached cellphones with their incessant text
messages being exchanged if they're not currently talking.
Sometimes you can even tell exactly what shows or movies the
person's been hooked on by the clothes he or she wears and ex-
pressions used. Even by gestures.
"Hopefully, having a stronger, more family-oriented culture will
help CR avoid some of the more negative aspects of pop culture
Hey, guess what? Parents in Costa Rica are just as busy and can
be just as neglectful, indulgent or self-centered as parents
anywhere else in the world. I guess it's not so surprising that
the most spoiled kids I've encountered have come from the
wealthiest, most self-involved parents though, as has been
pointed out already, one needn't be particularly wealthy in Costa
Rica to have servants feed, clothe, bathe, etc., one's children
instead of giving them more personal attention.
And then there are the unmarried women with many children
from different fathers. Sometimes she might even have been
married to one or more of them, but if she's currently not, just
like women in other countries that mom's probably more
interested in snaring her next man than taking care of and
spending quality time with her kids.
Additionally, in my experience even many of the poorest
families who can barely afford food will have a television, and
possibly cable or a satellite dish. Just like in other countries
people know someone who knows someone who works for the
cable or satellite company and share accounts, with or without
the subscriber knowing they're sharing. The family might have
a dirt floor and nothing to eat but beans, but they're all huddled
around the big screen TV, often with the neighbors, for hours
at a time watching TV and movies from all over the place.
Yes, it's a family-oriented event, but I sincerely doubt that any
aspects of pop culture are being left out.
"BTW, we had air raid drills because of the great red menace, had to put
our heads in the desks pointed at the windows to "mitigate the effects
of the nuclear blast" (yeah great protection). Let them imagine
In my school we were herded out into a long, dark hallway whose
only windows were way up high and made to crouch down along
the walls. Thank goodness we never actually got bombed and had to
use this fine method of protection!
"I have to say the nice thing here is that kids do have a lot more
I can feel good sending my 8 year old to the store or riding his bike on
the road and even exploring the coffee plantation with friends. It
really warms my heart that it is still like that here, we need to be
safe but in the US I would never allow these things, you just can't!!"
One of the reasons children in some areas seem to have more freedom
is because their parents are busy working trying to keep their enormous
families fed, clothed and housed and/or simply don't know better than
to keep their kids better protected.
What about the snakes, insects and terrible roads you're sending your
kids out to? But hey, as long as it warms the parent's heart to have
the kids out there with local kids whose parents are also cool with
I sure hope your kids can at least speak and understand Spanish so
they'll know when someone's trying to warn them to stay away from
that snake or bug or huge pit they're about to ride their bikes into!
I know the child molestation issue has already been mentioned regarding
this, but it actually happens to be a huge thing in this country,
more so even than in some others, as it seems to be somewhat culturally
accepted (if I've understood it correctly) that older people, not always
adults, either, will teach the younger ones about things like sex. I
mistaken, but that's been my perception of it when it's come up in
sations where ticos have been present to participate.
Sort of like the way the guys in Costa Rica expect to have extramarital
sex. I've even had gringos here try to justify it to me by saying
at differently. Yep, guys seem to be more open about telling you they
you as their little bit on the side while having no intention of
marriage. Does that mean they want their woman to know about it? NO!
Their women will threaten to murder someone her guy's been just
whether or not that woman has any actual interest in him. I guess
it's not all
that surprising, since there seem to be so many more men than women
country and, I believe in fact, there are. Since I'm not currently
online I can't
check and couldn't find the last statistics I saw, which I believe
were in the CIA
No wonder Costa Rican men seem to get furious sometimes about
immigrants with more money than they have who are looking for ticas
to get involved with! I'm surprised there hasn't been discussions about
this on the board, unless I've missed them, or unless you guys who are
getting involved with those fine Costa Rican ladies are oblivious to
the enmity it generates. Hey, I'm only reporting what I've been told
And, of course, since I'm a straight single female I might hear more
it than you do.
One would think there'd be plenty of men to go around though, huh?
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