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    ************************* CHI RHO CONNECTION The eNewsletter of Chi Rho Press, Your LGBT Christian Publishing House Vol. VI, No. 16 30 September 2005
    Message 1 of 1 , Sep 30, 2005

      The eNewsletter of Chi Rho Press,
      Your LGBT Christian Publishing House
      Vol. VI, No. 16
      30 September 2005



      1. 2006 Liturgical Calendar
      2. And God Created Dog and Cat
      3. Ten Commandments for Stress Reduction
      4. Have you read "My Memory Book"?
      5. "Christian with a Twist"
      6. Sanctoral Cycle
      7. Adam's Last Word


      This issue's Quote:

      "Of all tyrannies a tyranny sincerely exercised for
      the good of its victims may be the most oppressive.
      It may be better to live under robber-barons than
      under omnipotent moral busybodies"
      C.S. Lewis


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      1. 2006 Liturgical Calendar

      We are in the process of the final edit of the 2005-
      2006 Liturgical Calendar. We hope to be announcing
      that it is available soon! Watch for the announcement
      in an up-coming edition of the Chi Rho Connection!


      2. And God Created Dog and Cat

      A newly discovered chapter in the Book of Genesis has
      provided the answer to "Where do pets come from?"

      Adam said, "God, when I was in the garden, you walked
      with me every day. Now I do not see you any more. I
      am lonesome here and it is difficult for me to remember
      how much you love me." And God said "No problem. I
      will create a companion for you that will be with you
      forever and who will be a reflection of my love for you
      so that you will love me even when you cannot see me.
      Regardless of how selfish or childish or unlovable you
      may be, this new companion will accept you as you are
      and will love you as I do, in spite of yourself."

      And God created a new animal to be a companion for Adam.
      And it was a good animal. And God was pleased. And the
      new animal was pleased to be with Adam and it wagged its

      And Adam said, "Holy one, I have already named all the
      animals in the world and I cannot think of a name for
      this new animal."

      And God said, "No problem. Because I have created this
      new animal to be a reflection of my love for you his name
      will be a reflection of my own name, and you will call
      him Dog."

      And Dog lived with Adam and was a companion to him and
      loved him. And Adam was comforted. And God was pleased.
      And Dog was content and wagged his tail.

      After a while, it came to pass that Adam's guardian angel
      came to God and said, "God, Adam has become filled with
      pride. He struts and preens like a peacock and he believes
      he is worthy of adoration. Dog has indeed taught him that
      he is loved, but perhaps too well."

      And God said, "No problem. I will create for him a
      companion who will be with him forever and who will see
      him as he is. The companion will remind him of his
      limitations, so he will know that he is not always
      worthy of adoration."

      And God created Cat to be a companion to Adam. And
      Cat would not obey Adam. And when Adam gazed into
      Cat's eyes, he was reminded that he was not the Supreme
      Being. And Adam learned humility.

      And God was pleased. And Adam was greatly improved.
      And Dog was happy.

      And Cat didn't care one way or the other.


      3. Ten Commandments for Stress Reduction

      I. Thou shalt not be perfect, or even try to be.

      II. Thou shalt not try to be all things to all

      III. Thou shalt sometimes leave things undone.

      IV. Thou shalt not spread thyself too thin.

      V. Thou shalt learn to say "no".

      VI. Thou shalt schedule time for thyself and for
      thy support network.

      VII. Thou shalt switch thyself off, and do nothing

      VIII. Thou shalt not even feel guilty for doing
      nothing, or saying no.

      IX. Thou shalt be boring, untidy, inelegant, and
      unattractive at times.

      X. Especially, thou shalt not be thine own worst
      enemy. Rather, be thine own best friend.


      4. Have you read "My Memory Book"?

      We are very pleased to feature for the young and
      the young-at-heart the "My Memory Book: A Journal
      for Grieving Children, Second Edition" by Gretchen
      Gaines-Lane, LCSW-C. Please view and order it on
      our Web site at

      Though created for children by a children's grief
      and bereavement specialist, many adults are using
      "My Memory Book" to create memorials for loved ones
      who have died. Like a panel in the AIDS quilt, a
      copy of "My Memory Book" can become an important
      part of the grief process after losing a beloved
      friend or relative.

      �I love this workbook for children of all ages,�
      says Patricia Kelly, co-author of �Final Gifts�
      and a consultant in the Washington, D.C. area.
      �This is a book to treasure.�

      Space is available throughout the book for the
      grieving person to write or draw. Directions for
      over 20 exercises are given on the left hand side
      page, and the right hand side page is devoted to
      the grieving person�s creative use. The reader
      uses "My Memory Book" to create a book of memories
      about the loved one who died that is uniquely his
      or her own. "My Memory Book" encourages written
      exercises, collage, journaling, and drawings in
      any medium the user cares to employ.

      Dr. Phyllis Silverman, one of the most renowned
      experts in the bereavement field, writes, �This
      is one of the best workbooks I have seen to help . . .
      understand the nature of grief. It legitimates . . .
      ties to the deceased and helps find ways to talk about
      these connections.�

      The unique genius of this book is that it is wonderful
      for anyone to use, regardless of age. �My Memory Book�
      provides enough exercises for readers of any age to
      return to it again and again to celebrate the life
      of one recently lost and of their life together.
      The book also includes a special section in the back
      for readers to design their own exercises.

      Though many buy this book for family members, many
      counselors in the professional community have also
      recognized the therapeutic benefits of �My Memory
      Book� and use the book with their clients. �This
      workbook is a wonderful tool to assist therapists
      and counselors in their work with bereaved children,�
      says Nancy Boyd Webb, DSW, BCD, Professor, Fordham
      University Graduate School of Social Service.

      An Illinois hospice and hospital just ordered another
      100 copies of �My Memory Book� for their on-going use.
      We are proud of their recommendation of this important
      book as a bereavement tool for people of all ages.

      �My Memory Book� is available from Chi Rho Press for
      $10.95 each, $8.95 each for six or more copies, plus
      shipping and handling.

      See and order this exciting new book on our Web site at

      5. "Christian with a Twist"

      Here is a selection from our second major book of
      reflections, "Christian with a Twist: Reflections
      on Scripture that are a bit more inclusive, a bit
      more relevant, and with a bit of a bite," by the
      late William Gaston.

      "Christian with a Twist" is available for $19.95 each,
      $14.95 each for six or more copies, plus shipping and
      handling. You can read more about it and order it at

      As the subtitle suggests, Bill's writing has a bit
      of a bite, and we believe you will enjoy his sharp,
      but loving take on Scripture, life, and faith.

      Here is a selection entitled "Where Sinners Gather"
      from the Ordinary Time section of "Christian with a

      Please read Matthew 9:10-13 and Romans 3:23

      I do not like being called a sinner, and I do not
      refer to myself that way. Maybe Jesus thinks of me
      as a sinner in need of saving, but somehow I think
      that he thinks of me as another of God's children
      who just needs to be reminded of God's love. Maybe
      I am fooling myself. The Apostle Paul said we all
      have sinned and fallen short. How can I complain
      about being included in "we all?"

      Somehow when sin is mentioned by religious folk that
      "we all" part seems to be de-emphasized. The Pharisees
      did not say, "Why is he eating with sinners like us?"
      No, it was sinners like those tax collectors.

      Of course, I must admit that I have trouble with name-
      calling in general, even when it goes the other
      direction. I had a lot of baggage around the term
      "Christ-centered" when we were using it so much on
      our church banner and even tee-shirts.

      Christ-centered is certainly a good thing. I think it
      would be the highest of compliments if a visitor to our
      church would later tell people that we were a Christ-
      centered people. It just did not seem to be something
      "we" should be calling ourselves though. Sort of like
      calling ourselves good, and generous, and kind; we
      should strive to be those things, but maybe humility
      requires waiting for others to deliver the compliments.

      Of course, there is always a Pharisee around to call
      someone a sinner. Jesus turned the tables on them. I
      have never heard of a church that referred to itself as
      sinner-centered, but I think that would be a church
      where Jesus might be found.

      Clearly, this all has to do with the baggage that words
      accumulate or that we pile on them. I can be a Christ-
      centered sinner, and I guess I am. I do not know that
      Jesus would have much patience with my whining. I do
      not know that he would come here and say he was
      ministering to the GLBT community. If the Pharisees
      called us the queers, he might just say, "Yes, and
      wonderful queer children of God they are, too!"

      Politically correct language can get pretty muddled.
      When I go to the hospital or doctor's office I am a
      patient, a sick person. I notice more and more these
      places are referred to as wellness centers or some
      such thing. I wonder what the Great Physician would
      say to that?



      6. Sanctoral Cycle

      As a regular feature in the Chi Rho Connection, we
      are offering up traditional saints listed in the 2005
      Liturgical Calendar and Lectionary from today until
      our next scheduled electronic newsletter.


      Fri., Sep. 30, St. Jerome (Patron saint: librarians).
      Bible reading: When we pray, we talk to God. When
      we read the Bible, God talks to us. "To be ignorant
      of the scripture is not to know Christ," St. Jerome.

      Sat., Oct. 1, St. Therese of Lisieux. The Little Way:
      We are all called to be saints and we all think it
      impossible. Therese of Lisieux is one in the company
      of famous saints because she tried to be like them only
      in their smallest, humblest, and most hidden ways. She
      consciously set out to be a saint.

      Sun., Oct. 2, St. Thomas of Hereford. Call to duty:
      St. Thomas only wanted to live obscurity, but he was
      obliged in duty to undertake high church and state
      offices. He wanted to live in peace with everyone
      but was forced into conflict with powerful nobles
      and his own archbishop. He hoped to die amongst
      his friends at home but died amongst strangers in
      a foreign land. Our wants are not always God's
      wants for our lives, but when we follow God's lead,
      we are rewarded abundantly.

      Mon., Oct. 3, St. Remigius. Be humble in your
      successes: St. Remigius was a man of many natural
      talents and divine graces. All of his undertakings
      were successful. Yet he remained humble. We may
      learn from him to receive praise, no less than blame,
      quietly and with a lowly heart.

      Tues., Oct. 4, St. Francis of Assisi (Patron saint:
      animals and veterinarians). Poverty: "My God and
      my all!" This was the constant prayer of St. Francis
      and it explains both his poverty and his wealth.
      "Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the
      kingdom of heaven" (Matthew 5:3).

      Wed., Oct. 5, St. Maria Faustina Kowalska (Patron
      saint: those seeking mercy). Divine mercy: Christ's
      message in His revelations to St. Faustina was that
      this is a time for mercy. The times we live in,
      more than any other in history, call for a great
      outpouring of the mercy of God. As a result, the
      revelations to Faustina became known as "The Message
      of Divine Mercy" and Jesus received a new title,
      "The Divine Mercy," similar to "The Sacred Heart"
      as a renaming of Jesus himself.

      Thurs., Oct. 6, St. Bruno. Eternity: "Eternity is
      stamped upon the minds of saints by gazing on the
      eternity of God," St. Gregory the Great. We too
      should, like St. Bruno, think about what eternity
      will be like with God before committing ourselves
      to courses that may deviate us from attaining that

      Fri., Oct. 7, St. Ammon. Public Worship: We are
      summoned at least every Sunday to meet together as
      a body for the public worship of God. We are
      reminded that the most effective possible means
      for the achievement of holiness is the worship
      offered to God in celebration of the sacraments.
      "Do this in remembrance of me" (1 Corinthians 11:24).

      Sat., Oct. 8, St. Bridget of Sweden. Frequent
      confession: With every confession, we are drawn
      nearer to God and we gain a clearer knowledge of
      our inward states, become more active in virtue,
      more fit for mercy, and better disposed to receive
      God's gifts.

      Sun., Oct. 9, St. John Leonardi. Friendship: "A
      true and firmly built Christian friendship is not
      brought about by selfish interest, mere bodily
      proximity or deceitful flattery, but by the fear
      of God," St. Jerome. St. John Leonardi found such
      a friend in St. Philip, and he never looked for
      another. "Do not open your heart to everyone,
      but discuss your affairs with someone who is
      wise and God-fearing," "Imitation of Christ,"
      Thomas a Kempis.

      Mon., Oct. 10, St. Francis Borgia. Depreciation of
      "self:" St. Francis Borgia learned the worthlessness
      of earthly greatness by long experience of the world;
      he learned the dignity of Christian humility in
      meditation on Christ's humiliation. We need to
      learn more about ourselves in the same ways.

      Tues., Oct. 11, St. Paulinus of York. Renewal of
      baptismal promises: Many saints became saints
      because they did what all Christians promise to
      do on baptism: renounce their past ways and accept
      Christ. If we endeavor to follow our baptismal
      promises, our baptism would bear more fruit.
      Diversity Date. National Coming Out Day

      Wed., Oct. 12, St. Wilfrid. Anchoring our worldview:
      "I have posted watchmen on your walls, O Jerusalem;
      they will never be silent day or night. You who
      call on the Lord, give yourselves no rest and give
      God no rest till God establishes Jerusalem and makes
      her the praise of the earth" (Isaiah 62:6-7).
      Diversity Date. Commemoration: Matthew Shepherd

      Thurs., Oct. 13, St. Edward the Confessor (Patron
      saint: difficult relationships). Love of the church:
      David longed to build a temple for God's service;
      Solomon accomplished the task. But we, who have
      God made flesh dwelling sacramentally in our
      tabernacles and churches, should think no time, no
      zeal, no wealth too much to devote to the beauty
      of a Christian church: God's house. "I love the
      house where you live, O Lord, the place where your
      glory dwells" (Psalm 26:8).

      Fri., Oct. 14, St. Callistus I. Reverence for the
      dead: "This is a great work. If we are bidden to
      clothe the naked in life, how much also the bodies
      of the dead. If we shelter travelers bound for
      distant lands, how much also those who have departed
      to that eternal home whence they will never return,"
      St. Ambrose.

      Sat., Oct. 15, St. Teresa of Avila. Obedience to
      our confessors: "After all, I die a child of the
      church." These words spoken by St. Teresa teach
      us the lesson of her life: to trust in humble
      childlike obedience our spiritual guides as the
      surest means of staying on the correct path to


      Order the 2004-2005 Liturgical Calendar and Lectionary,
      complete with the entire year's Sanctoral Cycle, at
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      7. Adam's Last Word

      As September ends and Autumn begins, we look back at
      an eventful summer and hope you all had a great summer,
      and that the next few months bring nothing but joy
      and productivity to you and your ministries.

      The next few months bring a lot of holidays:
      Thanksgiving in Canada in October and in November
      in the United States. Then Advent is upon us and
      sooner than we like, Christmas, Kwanzaa, and the
      New Year.

      The holidays can be a wonderful and joy-filled time,
      but they can also be depressing for many people in
      our community. Let us be sensitive to each other
      and aware when people might be struggling with
      depression and loneliness around the holidays.

      And we at Chi Rho Press pray that everyone will
      have a fabulous holiday season!


      Of course, with Christmas less than three months
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      Gracia y paz,

      R. Adam DeBaugh, Director, Adam@....


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