7485Re: dealing with people
- Aug 2, 2006no attachment,,,i would call it getting older and wiser. as we age
we realize that we can speak our mind and very clearly too. it is
all in how you speak not what you say. it's in the genes too. i am
just like my mom when it comes to being candid. when i was in real
estate i was known for my being candid but i had to learn to be more
diplomatic. but, as i get older i have learned to think before i act
or speak. nancy
--- In Buddhism_101@yahoogroups.com, danielle wilson
>this. But now I find I speak my truth and I do feel I ask where is
> Hey Nancy,
> What I find interesting is before I would avoid things like
this coming from, is this right speach, or even any of my bussiness.
But I am also speaking of shambahla training a lineage of buddhism.
Before I would be terrified to be dealing with what I am dealing
with my children, although standing up for them is by far easier.
There are times to speak direct and I struggle with that. So I am
wondering what is the attachment?
> nancy lemke <richardlemke@...> wrote:
> hi danielle, anger and drawing a sword can come easy if we let it.
> am also guilty of it sometimes. i try, my darnest, to stop firstthen
> and think about what i am about to do. then i somehow can realize
> that it isn't worth it and it isn't what buddhism is all about.
> i can retreat and find compassion. i used to be a ready fighter asphysical
> i also have been thru some rough times and still am having
> rough times even right now. it is easy to be defensive and notmoment.
> compassionate...but worth the effort to be compassionate. namaste,
> --- In Buddhism_101@yahoogroups.com, danielle wilson
> <hairteazer2002@> wrote:
> > Greetings everyone!!
> > I sit here this morning in my usual routine scanning my messages
> listening to my children debate what cereal is better, I live in
> southern california and it is overcast (which I love) at the
> I only belong to a few boards, this is a new thing for me I am nota
> computer person but I have given it a shot. I have to say I loveown
> reading ideas and thoughts of others and how this can invoke our
> ideas. Last weekend I visited my grandfather who lives in anotheris
> state and a very, very small town. Of course what a shock. There
> a deaf child who lives on his street, I thought if that childlived
> where I live what oppertunities he would have. So watching theleave
> locals and seeing their lives I left thinking I can understand how
> being someone here who thinks outside of the box would have to
> or just become numb. Again, seeing all the things around me howwas
> blessed I am all the choices I have, stores, friends, freedoms to
> really be who I want to be. So I belong to another
> > board more metaphyisics baised and there was a debate while I
> gone on buddhism and enlightenment. I also live close to thisright
> community of people and work with in the lines. So personally
> knowing some of these people, this debate was heated and down
> nasty, not to mention these are not people who have really andthe
> truely studied buddhism. I never get involved with this type of
> situation, but it must have been my trip and coming home seeing
> this, so I responded short and to the point. I used my compassion
> but I also used my mind. My intent came from a healing stand point
> but I have a difficult time with the directness. I have studied
> warriorship and I am wondering has anyone else and do they feel
> same? Do you find it difficult with compassion and directness. Idrawing
> love the warriorship, I am going through a difficult custody
> situation my children have been harmed and I have no problem
> my sword for them but with my peers it seems different. Anythoughts?
> > Namaste,
> > Danielle
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