- "Identities, identities, identities - we get caught in other people's
minds, their mind nets. But if we don't get caught, their judgements
of us can run off us like water off a duck's back."
~ Ram Dass, quoted by Amy Gross, Modern Maturity July/August 2000
May this be of benefit.
- "How can we develop [an attitude of equanimity]?
Well, one thing we can do is to check our mind, to question why we respond the way we do.
Why do we feel hurt and angry when someone says bad things about us?
Why are we so concerned about what other people think and say about us?
Does the opinion of others make us what we are?
If other people dislike and criticize us, does that necessarily mean we are bad?
Alternatively, if others like and respect us, does that necessarily mean we are good?
"Giving too much credence to what others say about us can cause us to
be emotionally unstable and to have an unrealistic view of ourselves."
~ The Eight Verses of Thought Transformation
An explanation by Ven Sangye Khadro
Thanks Sharon for posting this in 2005.