Metta as wishing "happiness" for ourselves and others
- Metta as wishing "happiness" for ourselves and others
"This word 'happiness' also seems to be a tricky one. [laughs] . . .
This word 'happiness,' people have a lot of difficulty with it. They
say, 'I don't know if I want to wish myself, or someone else,
happiness, because, you know, we learn a lot from our unhappiness and
stuff, and besides if I wish them happiness, what's really going to
make them happy is stuff that also gets them in a lot of trouble, and
for me, too.' It's true, it can be a somewhat loaded term, I guess.
Although it was meant in a very simple, naive way that all of us
really would much prefer to feel some sense of joy, some sense of
inspiration, light-heartedness, and delight than we would to be
miserable and depressed all the time. You just say, 'For goodness
sake, could I have happiness, or could other people have happiness.'
"But in working with this, one of the ways of phrasing this that
seems to be more digestible for people is to think of happiness in a
very profound sense of May I fulfill my potential--during this
lifetime, from now until I die, may the days of my life add up to
waking up and fulfilling my potential, actually connecting with the
deep and rich potential that I have, and wishing that for other
people as well.
"Often that's a lot more what we're getting at, anyway, and that
includes...you don't exactly know, that could include what we
call 'sorrow' and what we call 'joy,' whatever it is that nurtures us
and wakes up and helps us to grow up and to fulfill our potential."
~ Pema Chodron, "The Love That Never Dies"
May this be of benefit.