Re: Ven. Thubten Chodron on Metta Meditation
- Dear Antony/Sharon,
I think Ven.Thubten is so true about "if you don't love yourself, it's hard to love others." and I like his sense of humor "Don't just wish to have hot fudge sundaes and banana splits, but truly wish yourself well in the sense of 'May I also have all the conditions necessary to practice Dharma."
--- In Buddhaviharas@yahoogroups.com, "antony272b2" <antony272b@...> wrote:
> "In the Theravada tradition, they have a way of meditating on love. I think it's quite nice, and I think it's good if we can incorporate that in our practice. And it can be used here, too.
> "The way you do it is you start off with yourself and wishing yourself to be well and happy. The idea being that if you don't love yourself, it's hard to love others. Here we come back to the old theme of self-esteem and wishing ourselves well, which sometimes is our biggest obstacle. To sit and start out, we can say, 'May I be well and happy.' Think of the different kinds of happiness, the different kinds of well being. Don't just wish to have hot fudge sundaes and banana splits, but truly wish yourself well in the sense of 'May I also have all the conditions necessary to practice Dharma. May I also meet pure teachings and teachers. May I quickly gain the realizations and free myself from cyclic existence. May I have the happiness of liberation and enlightenment.' Truly wish yourself well. That's caring for ourselves.
> "Wishing ourselves to have a nice house and a nice car isn't necessarily taking good care of ourselves. That might relieve some problems but cause other problems. Whereas if we really wish ourselves to have the realizations in a very kind way, we see that we can free our minds. We want to wish ourselves all the different kinds of happiness, both worldly happiness and spiritual happiness. Spend some time thinking about that not sitting and thinking and increasing your mind of attachment, but developing a feeling inside the heart of real affection for ourselves in wanting ourselves to be well and happy, not just because I'm me, but because I'm also a living being needing compassion."
> "Seven Points of Cause and Effect to Cultivate Bodhicitta Part 3"
> (lightly edited transcript) by Ven. Thubten Chodron© at Dharma Friendship Foundation, Seattle. 3 May 93
> Thanks Sharon for posting this in April 2011.
> With metta / Antony.