Re: Meditation on Friendliness by Kamalashila (short extract)
- "But when the basic feeling is painful or neutral, you need to
avoid, as far as possible, reacting with emotions like indifference, ill will,frustration, or self pity, because these can all become obstacles to metta."
This is a great point. I've noticed how easy it is to slide from neutrality to indifference or frustration. It's actually easy to go a little numb if one isn't mindful. Thanks, Antony, I'll be pondering this point all week. ;)
--- In Buddhaviharas@yahoogroups.com, "antony272b2" wrote:
> "Human experience is rarely all pleasure or all pain - it is usually bitter-sweet. When the feeling that you get, as you tune into your experience, is pleasant and enjoyable, it may be quite easy to cultivate kindness and friendliness. But when the basic feeling is painful or neutral, you need to avoid, as far as possible, reacting with emotions like indifference, ill will, frustration, or self pity, because these can all become obstacles to metta.
> Getting the Positive Emotion to Flow
> Instead, just continue experiencing, and patiently understanding, exactly how you are at the moment. Continue to practise mindfulness, understanding that your feelings are temporary and can change. The pain we create by our own reactions to pain is often far worse than the pain itself. Mindfulness is a creative response that can create a new trend in our consciousness - one that can even, eventually, grow into pleasure.
> Patience can be a 'way in' to a more definite response of loving-kindness. This response may be weak at first, but there are ways of strengthening it once you get started.
> For example, it may help to say to yourself 'May I be happy and well', or another phrase that, for you, evokes a friendly emotion. Don't just repeat the words automatically but consider their meaning, and allow yourself to respond to them."
> From: Chapter 2 Meditation on Friendliness by Kamalashila
> With metta / Antony.