- David, This must be a very painful situation for everyone involved, not the least of which your friend. I wonder if it wouldn t ultimately be the most kindMessage 1 of 134 , Jun 16, 2003View SourceDavid,
This must be a very painful situation for everyone involved, not the
least of which your friend. I wonder if it wouldn't ultimately be
the most kind thing to gently question your friend about her
motivations? If you are close enough friends, that is. As long as
she doesn't feel she is being judged she may be open to your insights.
Either way, may everyone involved be free of all suffering and enjoy
only happiness and peace. Sending metta your way,
--- In Buddhaviharas@yahoogroups.com, david frazee
> Dear Sharon,______________________________________________________________________
> This is a beautiful passage on the true meaning of
> compassion, from Thich Nhat Hanh. I wish very much
> that I could show this to a friend of mine who is in
> the "healing and helping" profession and is also a
> devout Buddhist. She has a patient right now who has
> made some mistakes, for which my friend, as her
> therapist, is punishing her in rather a severe way and
> I cannot see any compassion forthcoming, as she has
> shared her professional situation with me, as a
> confidant. I am imploring her to look towards the true
> meaning of compassion and to extend herself towards
> her patient and realize that this person is in deep
> psychic pain and needs her help. I am trying to help
> her see that punishment, anger, and striking out in
> anger, are not noble along the path of Buddha and the
> path to enlightenment. I feel she is letting her "own
> issues" and her own mental demons negatively affect
> her relationship with her psychological patient, and I
> am so sorry that she hasn't, as of yet, taken the
> opportunity to progress further on her path to
> enlightenment and show true and real compassion
> towards someone very much in need to her gifts,
> expertise and talent. It's all too easy to work with
> people who are "compliant and easy". Our true mettle
> is tested when something of enormous difficulty faces
> us, and we actually are able to put our Buddha
> teachings into true use. When we are able to embrace
> and care for someone who has wronged or hurt us, and
> forgive, and show compassion, then I believe, we are
> on our path. Much metta, David.--- Sharon
> <shar_63@h...> wrote:
> ". . .The second aspect of true love is karuna, the
> intention and
> capacity to relieve and transform suffering and
> lighten sorrows.
> Karuna is usually translated as 'compassion'. . .
> composed of 'com'
> (together with) and passion ('to suffer'). But we do
> not need to
> suffer to remove suffering from another person.
> Doctors, for
> instance, can relieve their patients' suffering
> without experiencing
> the same disease in themselves. If we suffer too
> much, we may be
> crushed and unable to help."
> - Thich Nhat Hanh, "Teachings on Love".
> May this be of benefit.
> HAPPY FATHERS DAY to the fathers out there! May your
> day be filled
> with peace, joy, laughter and happines.
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- The Dalai Lama was once asked who is your role model? He replied immediately, The Weeper. The Weeper is a man in Tibet who is so moved by even theMessage 134 of 134 , Jul 24, 2008View Source"The Dalai Lama was once asked
"who is your role model?"
He replied immediately,
"The Weeper. The Weeper is a man in Tibet who is so moved by even the
smallest or slightest suffering, that he weeps whenever he sees
Shedding tears of compassion is one of the dimensions of being human.
Our feelings are not just about our "personal stuff".
They're part of the gift of our emotional intelligence,
part of the gift of our larger selves.
This is not to say we should indulge or wallow in our pain for the
Nor is it good to wallow in too many TV/media images of suffering.
Stay fairly well-informed,
but stay open to the immediacy of life around you,
and allow compassion to arise from that."