Nonemotional, Willed Love (non-Buddhist)
- "How exactly do you love yourself? Answer this question and you will know how [a person] should love his neighbor. You naturally love yourself for your own sake. You wish your own good, and you do so even when you may have a certain distaste for the kind of person you are. Liking yourself or thinking yourself very nice, or not, has fundamentally nothing to do with the matter. After a failure of some sort, the will-to-live soon returns and you lay hold expectantly on another possibility of attaining some good for yourself...
[Agape] means such love for self inverted. Therefore, it has nothing to do with feelings, emotions, taste, preference, temperament, or any of the qualities in other people which arouse feelings of revulsion or attraction, negative or positive preferences in us... [Love] depends on the direction of the will, the orientation of intention in an act, not on stirring emotion. The commandment requires [a person] to aim at his neighbor's good just as unswervingly as man by nature wishes his own."
~ Paul Ramsey, Basic Christian Ethics (New York: Charles Scribner's Sons, 1950), pp. 99-100
Antony: The word "unswervingly" is the key here. If one constantly looks for emotional justifications before acting this leads to inaction and helplessness.
With metta / Antony.