Lovingkindness and its near enemy, attachment
- "What we call love is often attachment, a disturbing attitude that
overestimates the qualities of the other person. We then cling to
him or her thinking our happiness depends on that person. Love, on
the other hand, is an open and relaxed attitude. We want someone to
be happy simply because he or she exists
"Attachment values others' superficial qualities: their looks,
intelligence, talents, social status and so on. Love looks beyond
these superficial appearances and dwells on the fact that they are
just like us: they want happiness and want to avoid suffering."
~ Thubten Chodron, "Open Mind, Clear Heart," Snow Lion Publications,
May this be of benefit.