Re: [Buddhaviharas] Gil Fronsdal on metta as the basis of the other Brahmaviharas
Yes, indeed! Listening to this most recent Metta lecture by Gil (from the Seattle IMS website), it struck me that this section is especially relevant to our list, so I stopped to transcribe these few paragraphs.
Ahhh, we are SO lucky to be able to access online dharma lectures!
Have a wonderful day.
---- David Kotschessa <dkotschessa@...> wrote:
> Thanks as always for sharing. Did you transcribe
> that? (From audiodharma?)
> --- Sharon Werner <sharonwerner@...> wrote:
> > "In our tradition (Thervada Buddhism/Vipassana)
> > lovingkindness is the foundation [of the
> > Brahmaviharas]. Lovingkindness is basic goodwill
> > that is expressed in wanting someone, some being, to
> > be happy. So you have goodwill for someone. 'May
> > that person be happy. May that person succeed. May
> > that person be safe, healthy. May that person
> > continue to be well, or something [along that
> > line].' Sometimes that's seen as being a kind of
> > open-heartedness, being open-hearted or kindhearted.
> > "And when that kindheartedness encounters someone
> > that is suffering then that kindheartedness morphs a
> > little bit and takes the form of compassion; and
> > compassion is the desire, the motivation, to want
> > that person to be free of their suffering. So it's
> > a particular flavor of goodwill when we encounter
> > suffering.
> > "When the basic goodwill encounters someone who is
> > encountering a lot of joy, a lot of success,
> > something really wonderful has happened to them,
> > then that basic goodwill takes the form of
> > appreciative joy or sympathetic joy and we feel
> > delighted. 'Wow, that's great!'"
> > "And then the fourth one, equanimity, is for many
> > people the strangest one to equate with love,
> > because equanimity in the popular mind sometimes can
> > be seen as being emotionally flat or aloof or
> > balanced or even in such a way that 'Where's the
> > emotion there?' In order to illustrate the kind of
> > love that equanimity might be is sometimes referred
> > to as grandmotherly love. So it's the kind of
> > mindstate that a grandmother has towards the
> > grandchildren that's sometimes very different than
> > the parents. Whereas the parents, especially new
> > parents, can fret over every possible meaning, every
> > possible spill and scrape, and it seems so
> > consequential in all the little details, the
> > grandmother has raised children, has seen it all
> > before. So if the child says to the parent, 'I hate
> > you,' you know that four-year-olds say that very
> > often; and they also know that it's also possible
> > that ten minutes later they will ask, 'Will you
> > marry me?' And so we see it in perspective."
> > ~ Gil Fronsdal, transcribed from online dharma
> > lecture "Lovingkindness," Seattle Insight Meditation
> > Society, 4-10-06.
> > May this be of benefit.
> > [Non-text portions of this message have been
> > removed]
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