"The starting point for many problems is the way we feel about
ourselves and our life. Human existence is very precious, but
normally we fail to appreciate it. We have so much potential, so
much latent wisdom and loving kindness, so much to offer to the
world, but we ignore this and let ourselves be clouded with
depression. Focusing on shortcoming in our character and failings in
our dealings with people and work, for example, we develop an unfair,
low opinion of ourselves. This self-image becomes more and more
concrete over time. We identify ourselves as incapable and
inadequate, and consequently turn to other people in an attempt to
find happiness and fulfillment. However, as our friends are likely
to feel the same way about themselves, such relationships often bring
only more frustration.
"We can unlock the potential for happiness and satisfaction that lies
within each of us by becoming aware of our mental processes, and then
applying discriminating wisdom . . . We have to accept our positive
as well as our negative traits."
~ Ven. Sangye Khadro (Kathleen McDonald), "How to Meditate: A
Wisdom Publications, 1984.
May this be of benefit.