Fw: [Costuming] Women's safty
- It's scary to think about, but people do get attacked and this offers some
tips and most of them are easy.
>Subject: Women safetyVIOLENT
>TIPS ON STAYING SAFE...FOR WOMEN
>the elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to
>use it, do!
>If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back
>tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy.
>The driver won't see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
>Last night I attended a personal safety workshop, and it jolted me.
>It was given by an amazing man, Pat Malone, who has been a bodyguard for
>famous figures like Farrah Fawcett and Sylvester Stallone. He works for the
>FBI, and teaches police officers and Navy SEALS hand-to-hand combat. This
>man has seen it all, And knows a lot.
>He focused his teachings to us on HOW TO AVOID BEING THE VICTIM OF A
>CRIME. He gave us some statistics about how much the occurrences of randombad
>violence have escalated over
>the recent years, and it's terrible. Something like 99% of us will be
>exposed to, or become a victim of a violent crime.
>Here are some of
>the most important points that I got out of his presentation:
>(1.) The three reasons women are easy targets for random acts of violence
>(a.) Lack of Awareness You MUST know where you are & what's going on around
>(b.) Body Language Keep your head up, swing your arms, stand straight up.
>(c.) Wrong Place, Wrong Time DON'T walk alone in an alley, or drive in a
>neighborhood at night.side
>(2.) Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating,
>working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list,etc).
>DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect
>opportunity for him to get in the passenger side, put a gun to your head,
>and tell you where to go.
>AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
>(a.) A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking
>garage: Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger
>floor, and in the back seat.you
>(b.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger
>door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their
>vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
>(c.) Look at the car parked on the drivers side of your vehicle, and the
>passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car,
>may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman toby
>walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (Better
>paranoid than dead.)
>(3.) ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are
>horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot.)
>(a.) Do not get on an elevator if there is a weirdo already on there. (Of
>course bad men don't always look bad.)
>(b.) Do not stand back in the corners of the elevator, be near the front,
>the doors, ready to get off or on.This
>(c.) If you get on the elevator on the 25th floor, and the Boogie Man gets
>on the 22nd, get off when he gets on.
>(4.) If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS
>(a.) Police only make 4 of 10 shots when they are in range of 3-9 feet.
>is due to stress.neared
>(b.) The predator will only hit you (a running
>target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital
>(5.) As women, we are always trying to be
>sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed.
>(a.) Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good
>looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of
>unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for
>help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his
>(b.) Pat Malone told us the story of his daughter, who came out of the mall
>and was walking to her car when she noticed 2 older ladies in front of her.
>Then she saw a police car come towards her with cops who said hello. She
>also noticed that all 8 handicap spots in the area were empty. As she
>she saw a man a few rows over calling to her for help. He wanted her to
>close his passenger side door. He was sitting in the driver's side, and
>he was handicapped. He continued calling, untilshe turned and headed backto
>the mall, and then he began cursing at her. In the meantime, she wonderedof
>why he didn't ask the 2
>older ladies, or the policeman for help, and why he was not parked in any
>the empty handicap spots. As she got back to the mall, two male friends offind
>hers were exiting, and as she told them the story, and turned to point at
>the car, the man was getting out of the back seat into the front, and the
>car sped away. DON'T GET CAUGHT IN THIS TRAP.
>(6.) Tips to saving your life, if you have gotten into a violent situation:
>a.) REACT IMMEDIATELY If he abducts you in a parking lot, and is taking you
>to an abandoned area, DON'T LET HIM GET YOU TO THAT AREA. If you are
>driving, react immediately in the
>situation, and crash your car while still going 5 mph. If he's driving,
>the right time, and stick your fingers in his eyes.911
>He must watch the road, so choose an unsuspecting time, and gouge him.
>It is your ONLY defense. While he is in shock, GET OUT. (This sounds gross,
>but the alternative is your fault if you do not act.)
>(b.) RESIST Don't go along with him: run, if you are able:
>DON'T EVER GIVE UP! You DO NOT want to get to a crime scene.
>(7.) Always keep your distance when walking past strangers on the street or
>in dark areas.
>(8.) GET A CELL PHONE.
>a.) There are packages for $19.95 a month that allow you to program only
>into the dialing out program. (This is an alternative for parents who sayit
>is too expensive for theircar
>kids to have a cell phone.)
>(9.) BREAK DOWNS: Make every effort to avoid this by ALWAYS keeping your
>in good working order.and
>(a.) If your car breaks down: LOCK YOUR DOORS. You better have a cell phone
>to call for help.
>(b.) If you don't have a cell phone: (shame on you) keep a blanket, warm
>clothes, a pair of boots, and a flashlight in your car always, for
>(c.) If it's noon on a business day, you may want to put your hazards on
>walk to safety.You
>(d.) If it's 2 AM, put on your warm clothes, and walk to a lighted area.
>are a perfect target if you are sitting in your car broken down. Predatorsthere
>search the highways for easy
>targets like you.
>(e.) If you're on a desolate road: walk away from the car (in your warm
>clothes) and go to some bushes, or some area AWAY from your vehicles. It
>will be cold, and uncomfortable,
>but you DO NOT want to stay in your car, and there are no psycho bogeymen
>waiting in the bushes who knew you were going to break down there and then.
>(10.) Physical defenses that we can use against the violent predator:
>(a.) The EYES are the most vulnerable part of the body. Poke him there.
>HARD. It may be your, only window of opportunity.
>b.) The neck is also a vulnerable spot, but you MUST know where to grip,AND
>HAVE THE STRENGTH to cut off his breath.
>(c.) The last place is the KNEES. Everyone's knees are very vulnerable, and
>a swift kick here will take anyone down.
>**** A cautionary note about these things. If you do not do these things
>right the first time, you are in trouble, because it will only anger the
>individual, and that anger will be
>TAKEN OUT ON YOU. I'm not saying don't attempt them (it may be your only
>hope), but be forceful when you do.
>(11.) If you are walking alone in the dark (which you shouldn't be) and you
>find him following/chasing you:
>(a.) Scream "FIRE!", and not "help." People don't want to get involved when
>people yell "help," but "fire" draws attention because people are nosy.
>(c.) Find an obstacle, such as a parked car, and run around it, like Ring
>Around the Rosie. This may sound silly, but over the years, 5 women have
>told Pat Malone that this SAVED
>(d.) Your last hope is getting under the car. Once you are under here,
>are tons of things to hold on to, and he will not beour
>able to get you out and will not come under for you (most likely). Usually
>they give up by this point. The catch here is that YOU MUST PRACTICE
>GETTING UNDER THE CAR. You must have a plan (he will have one); know if you
>will be going on
>your back, front, from the side or back of the car. It must be practiced.
>(12.) Never let yourself or anyone that you know be a "closer" in any type
>of business (bar, store, restaurant, gas station). Pat knew
>Danielle, who was a girl that just died from being shot pointblank by some
>kids while she was closing at the local gas station. He
>talked with her the night before she died, and asked whether it ever scared
>her to close alone. She said yes, but said "I'll be all right, Pat. I'll be
>all right." She
>wasn't. Our world is not as safe as we pretend that it is, and living in
>fantasy worlds WILL get us in trouble, sooner or later.PLAN.
>Pat Malone said again and again that the women who die EVERY MINUTE from
>violent crimes expected to go to bed tonight, and get up tomorrow.
>No one expects it, but we must be prepared and aware so that we HAVE A
>BE PREPARED TO ACT! AND ACT HARD! HAVE A PLAN!
>I would encourage you to pass this on to all women, not just your friends
>and family, but everybody. We all need to hear it. For you and share with
>your family, especially the women
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