>More than anything, I think it highlighted how we tend to read
>intentions into each other's text that comes more from the ferment
>of our own insecurities than is the authors intent.
>I think that is the main lesson we need to remind ourselves of,
>when this topic comes up (as it has done, and will do).
>That's the lesson _I_ came away with, at any rate.
>I now try to remind myself that plain text emails are a p*ss-poor
>medium for reading others' subtextual conversations, and ideal
>for crafting imaginary ones that in reality mirror our own subtexts.
>I now try to remind myself to think twice before being offended.
>I now try to remind myself to use Occam's Razor in all
>I sometimes fail. But at least I try.
>I get a lot less huffy on the net these days as a result, and I am
>happier about it.
Another thing to keep in mind, IMO, is that it is veeeerrrryyy easy for what is being 'said' in text to *sound* critical and curt, even if the sender isn't trying to be so.
I am aware, myself, that most of my posts 'sound' very formal, and perhaps a bit cold, even, as I *cannot* bring myself to _not_ 'talk' correctly. ( If that makes sense? )
I guess that's why emoticons were invented! :-)
My 2cents worth.
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