ALL YOUR POLARITIES ARE VALID
A critical attitude towards oneself doesn't mean that you have to be hateful of yourself. The critical attitude can be accompanied by compassion and warmth. All your polarities are equally valid, whether weakness or strength. There's no point in splitting your basic being into several parts and trying to suppress certain parts and cultivate others. If we don't have allegiance toward samsara or nirvana, then we free ourselves from any dogma, any bondage. Some sense of ultimate relaxation begins to occur.
CTR from Ocean of Dharma