+Living Life God's Way+
Check Under the Hood
by Os Hillman, November 24, 2007
But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger,
rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.
"The root issue you are dealing with is fear. The physical symptom
is control, and when you cannot control, you get angry because of unmet
expectations." These were the words I spoke during a conversation in a
restaurant to my friend who was separated from his wife. He described
his anger and how he never saw some of these characteristics in his life
until he entered this marriage.
A friend once said to me, "Anger is like the lights on a dashboard.
They tell you something is going on under the hood. You must find out
the source of the problem." Whenever we have expectations of another
person and those expectations do not materialize, our tendency is to get
angry. The source of the anger is often the fear that the unmet
expectation will negatively impact us. We fear that our finances, our
well-being, our image, or any number of things may be impacted by the
unmet expectation. My friend's wife had not met his expectations in many
areas of his life, so then, many times it resulted in harsh words that
damaged his wife's self-esteem. Now, it was leading to a marriage
Jesus often spoke of living as though we were dead. How can you live
as though you are dead? "In the same way, count yourselves dead to sin
but alive to God in Christ Jesus" (Rom. 6:11). It is a choice each of us
must make. Once you become dead to that which stirs an emotion in you,
God is free to change that situation. Until then, you can expect God to
allow that situation to remain until you reckon yourself dead to the
effects of the issue that causes you to struggle.
Is there something that causes anger within you? Ask God what the
source of that anger is. You might be surprised at what you find. Then
ask God to give you the grace to reckon yourself dead to that issue. You
will find new freedom in your relationships and your own peace of mind.
Wow!....Can I relate to this.
I still have anger at times, but God has released me from so much
of my anger by showing the source of much of my anger.
I have been able to die to many emotions that set me off and damaged
my marriage, my relationship with my children and friends.
Most of that damage has been repaired and relationships restored at a
level I never thought possible.
And you know what else....I am so much happier and so is everyone around
God is the only reason for this...the strength comes from Him.
God is good! Amen!
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