The Simple Life
By Sheryl Simons
"The happier you are with the simple things, the easier it is to be
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Simplicity, clarity, singleness: these are the attributes that give
our lives power and vividness and joy. ~~Richard Halloway
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Being a parent isn't easy. Why does the most important job we
do not come with an instruction manual? And none of us have a perfect
example to learn by. Our kids see our strengths and weaknesses up
close and way too personally, sometimes. Being a parent often means
being a good actor. When we have a rough day, it's our job to keep
on going and not fall apart. Don't worry about kids not seeing real
life. They see it. But they need to see us being strong. That's
what gives them strength. That's what we have friends for. When
everything goes wrong, the dog bites the cat, and the car gets a
flat, and we are late for work, they need to see us handling our
troubles with the dignity of an adult, not the tantrums of a child.
Through the worst of times, it's hard to show our kids we are
strong on the outside, when we are falling apart on the inside. My
friend Kate was a single mom, raising two kids alone. Then there
were layoffs. She didn't know how she was going to pay her mortgage,
or put the next meal on the table. But you know what? Every time I
saw her with the kids, she was as chipper as could be. I realized
she was determined to get by and not let the kids know how she was
suffering. She decided they didn't need reminding of how rough
Her kids were there, so she could have dumped all her awful
feelings on them, but she realized it wouldn't make her feel better,
or make any of her problems go away. When she needed to talk, she
found an adult friend or counselor. Not that we have to lock all our
feelings inside, but finding healthy outlets, like running, or
punching a pillow works.
They moved, she worked wherever she could until she found a
good position again. The kids never seemed to let it faze them.
They grew into strong people because they learned from her example,
not from seeing her fall apart. She also showed that she had faith
in God to see them through. She said it often - "We have faith.
What kind of faith is it, when you only trust God in the easy
times?" They survived, and eventually, things got easier. Then Kate
was often heard to say, "See how things worked out? Things are
better than before, and I love my new job." She actually had a
better house, too, because the payments were lower and it was more
During the worst of times, Kate could still let her kids have
friends over, she could still bake cookies, she could let her kids
live a normal life, and that's exactly what she did. Instead of
buying pizza, they had homemade pizza night, and had fun making it
together. She learned where all the thrift stores were, and found
what she needed there. "Never let `em see you sweat", doesn't just
apply to Hollywood, does it?
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One generation plants the trees; another gets the shade.
If you bungle raising your children, I don't think whatever else you
do well matters very much.~~ Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis
Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but
they have never failed to imitate them. ~~ James Baldwin
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For greasy spots on clothing from something spilled while eating,
simply apply baby powder or cornstarch to the grease spot, and let it
sit over night. Launder it the next day and the grease is gone. The
powder or cornstarch absorbs the grease spot and takes it out.
SIMPLE APPLE BREAD
2 c sugar
1 c canola oil
2 t vanilla
1/4 c sour milk (add 1 teaspoon vinegar/lemon juice in milk)
1 teaspoon soda
4 cups flour
1 teaspoon salt
4 cups chopped apples
1 cup walnuts (optional)
Mix together all ingredients. Divide batter between two greased loaf
pans. Bake for 1 hour at 350 degrees (You might have to bake
theloaves for 10 or 15 minutes more until they feel set when tapped).
Note: Batter will be stiff.
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