Greetings from Solveig! Welcome to the mailing list! You should
probably also check out:
for plans for rough-and-ready kit to help get yourselves started.
Incidentally, the question of hakama is more varied than people may
tell you. What period are you interested in? With a -me style female
name, I would guess either Nara or Heian. If that is the case, then
you get to wear not one, but two pairs of hakama at the same time.
Incidentally, you should check out the Costume Museum in Kyoto:
Here you can visually "shop" for clothing which interests you.
Your Humble Servant