Please Say/Whisper the Words out Loud In the merit of this learning may Shana bat Rachel Esther be blessed with complete health, happiness, and only revealedMessage 1 of 4 , Nov 1, 2011View SourcePlease Say/Whisper the Words out LoudIn the merit of this learning may Shana bat Rachel Esther be blessed with complete health, happiness, and only revealed good.To determine whether an offense is ona'at devarim, three factors must be taken into consideration: motive, context, and tone:ITone Often it is not the actual words which cause pain but rather the contempt with which they are said. A person might say, "I'm so happy to see you" with true warmth and joy or icy coldness.IIA person who is prone to hurt others will often cite their "innocent" words to prove that they didn't do anything wrong. The words themselves may not seem harmful to an outsider who is not aware of the tone of voice used at the time or the conditions surrounding the event, but the person who heard them is deeply hurt.(Sticks and Stones by Dr. Miriam Adahan)Create a meaningful day!- Ora
In the merit of this learning may Myrian Venezia bat Devorah be blessed with complete health, happiness and only revealed good. I To abstain from hurtingMessage 1 of 4 , Oct 20, 2012View SourceIn the merit of this learning may Myrian Venezia bat Devorah be blessed with complete health, happiness and only revealed good.ITo abstain from hurting people with words one must have a strong understanding of human nature in general and an understanding of each individual in particular. It takes a lifetime of perpetual study to understand other people. This knowledge cannot be gained with any shortcuts. But once you have a willingness to understand other people, you will learn something from each encounter with another human being.IIWe should be willing to ask other people to point out to us when we say things that hurt their feelings.If we find that we frequently offend other people unintentionally , it shows that we maybe having difficulty figuring out on our own what we are doing wrong. Constructively consulting with others may help.(The Power of Words by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin)Create a meaningful day!- Ora
In the merit of this learning may Nechama Ahuva bat Leah Raizel be blessed with an immediate refuah shleima bitoch she ar cholei yisrael. I Watch Your Words:Message 1 of 4 , Oct 8View SourceIn the merit of this learning may Nechama Ahuva bat Leah Raizel be blessed with an immediate refuah shleima bitoch she'ar cholei yisrael.IWatch Your Words: They Create Your Life - The words you speak program and condition your mind. When you speak words of gratitude, you are programming and conditioning your brain and mind to experience more and more gratitude. Speaking words of negativity and ingratitude program and condition your brain and mind to experience less and less gratitude and more and more misery. You create your habits and your habits create you. By speaking words of gratitude regularly, you are developing the habit of speaking words of gratitude. The more you keep up this habit, the easier it becomes to say even more words of gratitude. As you continue to speak words of gratitude, thoughts of gratitude are integrated into your mind and you will spontaneously think and speak this way.IICatch yourself whenever what you say is an expression of a lack of gratitude. Instead of being upset with yourself for still lacking as much gratitude as you would wish, be grateful that you are becoming more aware of your lapses. This awareness will enable you to be more careful from now on.It would be a good idea, to resolve that whenever you hear yourself saying something that is ungrateful, you immediately make five statements of gratitude.
(THANK YOU! Gratitude: Formulas, Stories, and Insights, by Rabbi Zelig Pliskin)Create a meaningful day!- Ora