In the merit of this learning may Rut bat Yael be blessed with an immediate refuah shleima bitoch she ar cholei yisrael. Erev Shavuot What happens if your
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, May 13
In the merit of this learning may Rut bat Yael be blessed with an immediate refuah shleima bitoch she'ar cholei yisrael.
Erev Shavuot What happens if your friend is speaking to you and you didn't realize until s/he finished that it is negative information that you should not have heard? Try to find a zchut (merit) for the
person being spoken about. Ex: Your friend says "you know my neighbor is so self-centered. She would never take my kids off the bus for me if I arrive late". Try to counter it with something like "She is probably so busy between her full time job and her own children. I am sure she would help if she wasn't so busy".
Shavuot Day 1 However, if you know your friend is the type of person who will not let you have the last word and every time you try to find a zchut for the person being spoken about s/he will counter it with more negative things. Don't try to defend the person and fuel the fire. Try switching the topic or asking not to speak about other people. But, if there are other people listening, wait until the speaker leaves and fill them in on the merits of the person who was just criticized.
Shavuot Day 2 If you are sitting among a group of people speaking negatively the best thing to do is stop the person by saying "Lets not talk about people" or "I don't think we are allowed to talk about her". The outcome will be that you will have prevented many people from speaking negatively about others.
(Lessons taken from Purity of Speech by C.T. Friedman)
Have a beautiful, spiritual, uplifting Shavuot! - Ora
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