Many people feel that discipline means a lack of freedom, a repression or joyless life. But imagine that you are tied to the saddle of a galloping horse,Message 1 of 176 , Sep 23View Source"Many people feel that discipline means a lack of freedom, a repression or joyless
life. But imagine that you are tied to the saddle of a galloping horse, clinging for your
life, hoping that somehow the horse might feel sympathy and stop. Is that enjoyment?
That is the situation when we do not have discipline over our minds. The person
who really enjoys horseback riding is the one who controls the horse, who can
stop whenever he or she wants.
You will enjoy the world when you know how to handle it well, when you become master
of it. Who is the person who enjoys eating? The one who eats well, chews well,
digests well, and assimilates well, not the one who eats for the sake of the
tongue, overloads the stomach, and then uses purgatives.
If your friends laugh at you and say, 'With Yoga you are just running away from the
world; you are not going to enjoy anything,' tell them, 'We are the people who are going
to enjoy it best because we are working to bring everything under our control.
We don't want to be controlled by anything. We want to be masters of our tongues
and our eyes. We won't be slaves to our desires.' This is the aim of Yoga."
- Sri Swami Satchidananda
Question: How can I know when to serve others and when it is best for me to say no without guilt? Sri Swami Satchidananda: You yourself should know how muchMessage 176 of 176 , Oct 26View Source
Question: How can I know when to serve others and when it is best for me to say no without guilt?
Sri Swami Satchidananda: You yourself should know how much you can give. You cannot give beyond your capacity. If you have done a lot of service that day, and if you are really tired, you should say no. Otherwise, you are saying no to your own body or mind. In the name of helping others, you should not put your body into a situation where it might get hurt. Your conscience will tell you if you are just finding an excuse; but if you really need the rest, then you can honestly say no. You don't have to feel guilty about it.
Why should you feel guilty? Nobody expects you to go beyond your capacity, If you try to do something beyond your capacity, you might even make a mess of it. So, know your capacity, know your limitations. Then offer your services. There's no need to feel guilty at all. If you feel guilty, then maybe you can do it but you just don't want to. If your conscience is clear, you don't have to feel guilty.
Ask advice from your own pure Self. Your conscience is always clean. That's the part of God in you. It's what you call the guru within. It's not necessary to always get advice from someone outside. The conscience is constantly giving us advice, but often we don't listen to it. We don't even want to listen. Someone else can only help you for a while. You should learn to ask that buddy within.
Sometimes you might feel a conflict: "I don't know which is the Self and which is the ego. One says 'Do it;' the other says, 'Don't do it.'" In that case go to someone who is capable of recognizing the difference. But, ultimately, we have to develop the capacity to discriminate within ourselves. That is why meditation is so important. Until you become established in that, at least in meditation you should be able to hear your own inner Self.
Om Shanthi, Shanthi, Shanthi