You guys probably agree more than you disagree, the problem with online communication is it lacks the subtly of inflection, facial expression and bodyMessage 1 of 176 , Sep 4, 2011View SourceYou guys probably agree more than you disagree, the problem with online communication is it lacks the subtly of inflection, facial expression and body language. Also thier is sometimes an assumption of difference.just my two cents
From: walto <calhorn@...>
Sent: Sunday, September 4, 2011 11:11 AM
Subject: [Meditation Society of America] Re: "Right Effort"
--- In email@example.com, "walto" <calhorn@...> wrote:
Maybe I just disagree with you? We could agree to disagree: In fact, each could acknowledge that the other was correct and that his position wasn't necessarily a function of some psychological defect. I'm willing to do that--Are you?
I didn't put that well. Obviously, neither of us is likely to acknowledge that the other is "correct." I should have said something like "each could acknowledge that the other takes a different view of the matter, but that his position isn't necessarily a function of some psychological defect or incompleteness. I'm willing to do that--Are you?"
Sorry for any confusion.
Question: How can I know when to serve others and when it is best for me to say no without guilt? Sri Swami Satchidananda: You yourself should know how muchMessage 176 of 176 , Oct 26View Source
Question: How can I know when to serve others and when it is best for me to say no without guilt?
Sri Swami Satchidananda: You yourself should know how much you can give. You cannot give beyond your capacity. If you have done a lot of service that day, and if you are really tired, you should say no. Otherwise, you are saying no to your own body or mind. In the name of helping others, you should not put your body into a situation where it might get hurt. Your conscience will tell you if you are just finding an excuse; but if you really need the rest, then you can honestly say no. You don't have to feel guilty about it.
Why should you feel guilty? Nobody expects you to go beyond your capacity, If you try to do something beyond your capacity, you might even make a mess of it. So, know your capacity, know your limitations. Then offer your services. There's no need to feel guilty at all. If you feel guilty, then maybe you can do it but you just don't want to. If your conscience is clear, you don't have to feel guilty.
Ask advice from your own pure Self. Your conscience is always clean. That's the part of God in you. It's what you call the guru within. It's not necessary to always get advice from someone outside. The conscience is constantly giving us advice, but often we don't listen to it. We don't even want to listen. Someone else can only help you for a while. You should learn to ask that buddy within.
Sometimes you might feel a conflict: "I don't know which is the Self and which is the ego. One says 'Do it;' the other says, 'Don't do it.'" In that case go to someone who is capable of recognizing the difference. But, ultimately, we have to develop the capacity to discriminate within ourselves. That is why meditation is so important. Until you become established in that, at least in meditation you should be able to hear your own inner Self.
Om Shanthi, Shanthi, Shanthi