Let your body do the work of the physical activities of your life. As
physical responses are needed, let them not be misappropriated or
weakened by unneeded emotional and/or mental activity. Similarly, when
you have to use your mind, don't let your body or emotions interfere.
And when your emotions are appropriate, keep your mental and physical
gyrations stilled. This is real Self-control. How to do this? Witness
your life as it takes place. Be empty with attention. And let "Thy
will be done" be done...without your judgements, comparisons, or
comments. Mind chatter is always accompanied by insecurity, fear, and
unreality, and makes living your life as it takes place an
impossibility. Meditation is a fine training ground that changes your
inner iron into steel. And sooner, later, or immediately, you will be
strong and gentle enough to allow your life to proceed with the
stillness that allows you to stop and smell the roses and actually
smell the roses.