First of all, please don t be hard on yourself. The fact that you are noticing your behavior and that you want to stop doing it is really wonderful. MostMessage 1 of 197 , Jan 21, 2002View SourceFirst of all, please don't be hard on yourself.
The fact that you are noticing your behavior and that
you want to stop doing it is really wonderful. Most
people aren't even aware of thier negative behavior.
And, I know how you feel, because I have been there.
Just continue to witness your behavior and when you
can, control yourself from saying the inappropriate
thing. Even if you have to walk out of the room.
Remember, this doesn't have anything to do with anybody
else and how they are being, it is about you and your
perception of things. Continue to meditate. Two meditations
that you may find helpful with this, that are on the
meditaion society's website, are: #38, The Dali Lama's
Meditaion and #70, Non-Expression of Negativity. If you
truely wish to change your behavior, eventually you
... me.... I am so glad for ... Hi Lora, I would suggest visitng the website for the meditation society http://www.meditationsociety.com/. There are lots ofMessage 197 of 197 , Jun 9, 2002View Source--- In meditationsocietyofamerica@y..., "Lora_T" <candlelady123@j...>
>I have never meditated ever... i appreciate any help you can giveme.... I am so glad for
> this meditation group...Thanks for starting it.. Lora THi Lora,
I would suggest visitng the website for the meditation society
http://www.meditationsociety.com/. There are lots of techniques
listed there. Try a few different ones until you find one that is
easy to follow. Perhaps the first thing to try is to just sit in a
quiet place, close your eyes, and focus on the sound and feeling of
breath. Just breathe natually. Notice your thoughts, but don't hang
onto them. Just watch them come and go. Watch and listen.
I hope this helps. Meditation can seem difficult when you are first
starting out (and even after you have been doing it a while for that
matter). Just try it and be patient and perserve. The hardest part is
the actual committment to sit down and do it. Just sitting quietly
and watching your breath is more beneficial than you may imagine.