I had logged
off when I got my fourth phone call from my ex-band today, the first three to
let me know he was okay and where he was now (he is in rehab for a few days
after being released from the hospital this morning) and may end up staying
longer, if he feels as if he needs to), and to ask for telephone numbers of our
kids so he could return all the calls he got on his cell phone while he was in a
coma for two weeks.
during this conversation that I found out what had really happened to him when
he passed out a day or so after his surgery. Initially, they had thought
that this was caused by his reaction to not drinking, but since then I have come
to know that he was actually in a coma for two weeks after his surgery
because his body was reacting to the antibiotics he was taking. It totally
rejected them and caused his body to shut down, so it looks as if he was in
worse shape that they had initially thought, which is why they gave him a brain
scan last Friday, to see if his brain had been affected in any way during his
stayed unconscious so long, I had a real problem understanding the turn of
events in his case because I know someone who was a full-blown alcoholic when
they had emergency surgery and he was only affected by alcohol withdrawal
for about a week and then he came out of it totally. And I knew how much
he drank each night -- a twelve pack -- beer -- so I thought if Arnold was out
for two weeks, he must really be a full-blown alcoholic plus.
because this is something that does not happen that often at the hospital where
he is, the staff just assumed that his actions and unconscious state was caused
by his body needing alcohol because of how he was acting, but that was not the
case at all, which is probably why he is now resenting the fact that his sister
wants him to stay in rehab for three months and not three days and also wants to
force him to start going to A.A. immediately.
bit of information has come out and he really had no effects of alcohol
withdrawal after his surgery (because he told me just now that he really
only drinks occasionally, not every day as I had been told by my middle
daughter), I can't say that I blame him for getting upset at his sister for
wanting him to stay there that long when he does not have a real
problem. And just think of the hospital bill that will appear
because of an extra three months of care which includes counseling for
alcoholism three times a day, three hours each for three
So I just
wanted to share this news with all of you and again tell everyone who joined me
in prayer for him how grateful I am to you and what big hearts you all have for
helping me out in this particular situation.
I am just so
very glad that I now know the real truth and that he seems to be on the road to
full recovery, just as soon as he recovers completely from his surgery and
gets his strength back.
I am reminded of how wonderful it is to have friends on-line who I believe will
support me any time I am in need of their help and who never fail to be there
for me -- each time I need a helping hand or a helping heart -- for anything.
So thanks once for being in my life and most of all -- as always --
thanks so very much for being my friend.
light, joy and angel hugs,