Part of letting go is to recognizing that you are a
part of this universe and not separate from it. Perhaps a situation has come up
in your life recently that signals an ending-the passing of a relative, the end
of a relationship, the loss of a job. The people we love and the things we do
contribute to our sense of who we are. When the people and things we love are
threatened, taken away, we can rebel. We want to hold on to the known and don't
want to see what's on the other side.
Let go of the
uncontrollable in your life. You're not a solitary being in this great universe,
set to struggle against all of the forces; you're part of the whole. And the
changes that come-whether they're joyous or sad, easy or difficult-are just part
of the growing process that each of us goes through.
Feel the pain when you have a loss. Feel the joy when you triumph.
Then let go and continue to grow. See how connected you are.
God, help me recognize that I am a part of your creation and don't
need to fight it. Help me live in peace and celebration of
"The places in our
personality where we tend to deviate from love are not our faults, but our
Thought for the Day / Nearly all of us suffered the
feeling that we didn't quite belong. / c.
12 & 12, p. 57
We are here because there is
no refuge finally from ourselves. Until a person confronts themselves through
the eyes and hearts of others they are running. Until they share their secrets,
to suffer them, they have no safety from them. They will be alone. Where else
but on this common ground can we find such a mirror. Here, at last, a person can
appear clearly to themselves; not as the giant of their dreams nor the dwarf of
their fears, but as a man or woman, a part of the whole with their share in its
purpose. On this ground we can each take root and grow, not alone anymore as in
death, but alive to ourselves and to others.
It is in our weakest moment
that we find our greatest strength. It is in our vulnerability that we find
promise and depth. It is in our hopelessness that we find hope. It is when we
give up on what we can see that we reach beyond it and find the love that
transcends it. It is when we find the courage to get naked and free ourselves of
pretense that the sun and the hope move in our direction. It is when we act from
our higher self, that pure place within, that we fall in love with who we are.
It is when we experience the self-verification of being true to ourselves that
we know joy.
The range of what we think
and do is limited by what we fail to notice. And because we fail to notice that
we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change; until we notice how
failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds.
R. D. Laing
To a man who hesitated to embark on
the spiritual quest for fear of the effort and renunciation, the Master said:
"How much effort and renunciation does it take to open one's eyes and
Anthony de Mello, SJ
is an obstruction in the heart; an inability to feel and comprehend all that is
noble, true and great, and to take part in the good.
"Your imagination is your preview to
life's coming attractions."