On this Feast of All Souls, prayers for all the dear ones of our readers
gone to God. Eternal rest grant unto them, O Lord! And let perpetual light shine
Special prayers for our Abbot Hugh, of Pluscarden. His Mother, Mrs. Gilbert,
died this morning. Prayers for her happy death and eternal rest, and for all
her family and those who mourn her. What a propitious day to die: just
before the whole Church begins to pray for all the faithful departed! May she be
safe and sound and rejoicing in the arms of God. Lord, help us all as You know
and will. God's will is best. All is mercy and grace. God is never absent,
praise Him! Thanks so much. JL
March 3, July 3, November 2
Chapter 26: On Those Who Without an Order Associate with the
If any sister presumes
without an order from the Abbess
to associate in any way with an excommunicated sister,
or to speak with her,
or to send her a message,
let her incur a similar punishment of excommunication.
The principle here goes well afield of monastic excommunication.
Tempting though it often is, at some very real point one cannot (and
ought not!) "protect" another from a parent or abbot or
teacher or spouse. For better or worse, the one charged by God with
the care of the child or monastic or student or partner really bears
that charge, in ways that we cannot interfere with.
This chapter was written for those who had already gone through all
the earlier stages. They wound up in the ultimate form of monastic
exclusion. At that point, one must leave the monastic and Abbot to
themselves and pray. We are not called to play good cop/bad cop any
We must stand back in prayerful silence. God gave the monastic and
the superior and the Abbey to each other. It is folly of the richest
sort to assume He didn't know what He was doing. God also gave the
parent and child, boss and employee, and the spouses to each other.
Remember, I said "at some point" one must do nothing but pray. There
are plenty of ways to be genuinely helpful before that point is
reached and one ought to do so. I surely tried to love my students
who broke my heart with their pain, but at some point I was helpless.
God gave X this parent and God is not mean. Cannot be. Will never be.
I had to trust Him at that extreme and pray for the best, which is
all God works for anyway. And God works MUCH more efficiently than I
Our railing at the seeming harshness of this chapter can cover
another very important fact. Sometimes WE are the seemingly
malevolent torturers and we don't even see that. Rare is the person
who can truly judge themselves with the standards they cavalierly
apply to others! Even worse, it often happens that we are BOTH the
torturer and the innocent victim, doing it most hatefully within our hearts,
where none but God can enter.
Our own flawed and fallen hearts trash our own pathetic souls,
beating them up with all kinds of useless recrimination and self-
loathings. Whoops! Not what we would have first noticed, is it? Yet
we sometimes lock the doors of that torture chamber with the key that locks
even God: free will. We and we alone can thwart God in our own
regard. Scary power, isn't it?
Check out the times we have "excommunicated" ourselves, check out the
times we have damnably placed ourselves beyond any help from anyone.
The injustice there is much harder for us to see, but it is terribly
real. Whenever we do that, we affirm the terrible heresy that we know
better than God, that His omniscience stops at the door to our inner
I love Gerard Manley Hopkins; he is my all-time favorite poet. I
think he and I had more than a thing or two in common, not least of
which were the tendencies to depression and beating oneself up with
extreme efficiency. Here's something he wrote that sings to my heart, and
I hope to yours as well.
"My own heart let me more have pity on; let
Me live to my sad self hereafter kind,
Charitable; not live this tormented mind
With this tormented mind tormenting yet."
Pray for the awful excommunications that you CANNOT help and look
ever so carefully for those you and you alone can relieve, those of
your own soul and heart! God alone can bring good from evil, any
evil. Ask Him, let Him. He will never fail.
A final word on this day when many of us are thinking on Purgatory. This
is my own opinion, not official teaching, but I don't think it contradicts
teaching in any way. Try to think of Purgatory as also being our chance to
forgive ourselves. Surely the awesome mercy and love of God are so
infinite that many of us may have a hard time accepting them at first, a
hard time forgiving OURSELVES for being so dumb. Purgatory might
very well serve that purpose, too! We cannot, after all, be perfectly happy
in Heaven until we are perfectly comfortable there. For that comfort,
self-forgiveness is very necessary!
Love and prayers,
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