I have been pondering on why we had our recent attack. Part of my thinking
beyond solving the problem was that it rang bells for me as I work with
patients who are so self-destructive. This is what I came up with, feel
free to object and discuss your own opinion. This is my own professional
opinion. For those who don't know me, I am RGN/RMN trained, work in mental
health settings and have an interest in clients who are compulsive
self-harmers and suffer from addictions as well as acute crisis work.
Incidentally, the "bomber" may or may not be a nurse.
My first response to the attack was that my email program went mad!
Subsequently I discovered the truth. My second response was thus frustration.
I am of the opinion that the abuser whom I shall call Joe for ease of
language, is a complex bloke. The complexity starts with a need to exploit
anger, rage, destruction, frustration, hurt, rejection and isolation.
The interpretation of the above complexities is multifactorial. My feelings
are steered towards a borderline personality disorder based on the
deception and desire to destroy a solid existence or foundation (ie the
website and/or list) as good relationships are impossible to maintain. The
exploit of anger is misdirected, so for example, the anger may be at
Damien, however, simply confronting Damien would not have been possible.
This is because it would involve confronting a relationship difficulty and
Damien represented an authority figure. The relationship is based on the
surrounding environment. Damien had built up a support network, which Joe
may find intimidating or threatening. Why was it intimidating or
threatening you may ask, my belief is that Joe may have been rejected in
some way by Damien or a nursing colleague who has nothing to do with
Damien, however it is seeking revenge. The abuse at authority may represent
infantile demands that are made that cannot be met. Additionally the child
in Joe, enjoys the playing games bit only to feel that there is a war going
on, which seems rather sad, and in wars we throw bombs. Internet bombs are
safer as the personal risks are substantially reduced and the deception is
Isolation. As relationships are thrown into such destruction and turmoil,
the distance is great. This leads to a feeling of rejection, "why don't you
and thus isolation ensues. Caring is very hard, as an inability to trust
anyone and only form intense relationships means that the incidence of
isolation is increased. Joe has clearly demonstrated his need for
attention, as he is saying "listen to me" with a gun to our heads in the
literal sense, the result is our rejection as we deny rightly so, any
chance of deliberating with such an encounter. He has thus achieved a deep
sense of isolation, and no doubt will continue attacking other newsgroups
until he is rejected once again by father.
So, how can Joe be helped. Clearly he needs a stable environment to be in.
Long term psychodynamic therapy with cognitive behaviour therapy to help
build a trusting relationship is a start. Crisis management would be part
of a CBT programme. This is long process however it would resolve long
standing conflicts and enable Joe to tolerate the pain and anguish he