Thanks for your questions
According to Buddhism we must support our parents not
only physically but also
spiritually.The Buddha advised us to support our
parents to get higher spiritual stage. Chinese way of
supporting parents is partially what the Buddha
For your second question in Singalovada Sutta the
Parents also have five duties toward their children as
parents will reciprocate: they will restrain them from
evil, support them in doing good, teach them some
skill, find them a sutaible wife or husband, and in due
time, hand over his inheritance to them. Doing these
duties means they respect the children. Parents
respected since mother
avoided eating hot and sour food during pregnancy.Also they took care of
children since they didn't know what the child is male
or female.parental lovingkindness changed red blood to
white as milk.You should focus on what the M.O.T.H.E.R
means. These are how parents respected the children.
According to your question that parents mistreated to
children " is lack of parent's child development
education not by reverence. Parent's reverence and
respect toward children is 100 times the
children respect toward parents. There is nothing more
to say to mention to respect children because it
is very clear parents respected and revered children
with endless love (ananda metta). This is very clear
that even animals we can see. According to Buddhism
'whatever a couple enjoy sensual craving,parent is
parent. We can't say no father or mother. If we say it
is materiallism and wrong view.
Therefore,we should treat each other with five duties
of parents and five duties of children.
--- Benoit Santerre <benoit_santerre@...
> Dear Venerable Sayadaws,
> I have two questions regarding proper conduct
> parents. In his advice to lay people in Singalovada
> sutta, the Buddha says we must support our parents.
> Does that mean simply helping them when they need or
> give them money regularly no matter what the
> is? Chinese must give money regularly to parents
> when they live by themseleves with a husband or
> and children (i.e. no longer supported by parents).
> this what the Buddha meant?
> My second question is as follow. There seems to be a
> strong emphasis in Asia (and in Asian Buddhist
> discourse) on reverence towards one's parents. Very
> good! But what about reverence towards one's
> Given that children who suffer mistreatment by their
> parents (be it verbal or physical), which is quite
> common in our world, have a big chance to suffer a
> from this psychologically for the rest of their
> it should be very important that parents also
> and revere their children. Why is it not mentioned
> that reverence to children also lead to the deva
> world? Or that the view 'there is no children' is as
> much a wrong view as the view 'there is no mother
> father'? Children are born in the world because
> couples enjoy sensual craving. Don't they have a
> responsibility for this? As a psychiatric social
> worker student working also in family therapy, I see
> too much people suffering from parental
> and much less suffering from their children's
> mistreatment. Is it fair to say that discourses on
> parent-children relations lack a balanced
> My question is long but a simple exposition of how
> parents and children should treat each other
> to Dhamma would be very satisfying to me.
> Thank you,
> Highest reverence to the Noble triple Gem.
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