Dear Aley John,
My Hearty congrats Aley for your BRILLIANT analysis of our psyche
and the ground realities while responding to Abin George Kuriakose.
I should say "FINALLY YOU SAID IT!!" the true feelings of the
majority of the ordinary MALANKARA SABHA MAKKAL who are otherwise
unable or incapable to express their true feelings.
The practical considerations you said about the marriage situation
is very true. I was today making an analysis of the Matrimonial
columns of Gulf News of last Friday published from Dubai.Out of
about 40 advts. from Orthodox/Jacobite parents, 37 have specified
Jacobite/Orthodox/Marthomite/CSI as the choice.Very recently I have
come across one Jacobite Achan's daughter getting married to a
Marthomite boy(arranged marriage).Knowing well the harassment the
parents of marriagable age girls are subjected to in the
marriage "business"/market of our community, I will never blame the
This clearly shows that even the formation of Marthoma church is not
accepted by the common laity by and large. The common laity are very
wise, they are very silent, but they know very well that most of the
divisions are manipulated by few individuals for power and position
only, though they camouflage their actions in the name of FAITH!!!
I consider an young man like Abin marrying without taking dowry will
be considered as a much more noble act in front of God than
declaring that "I will marry a Jacobite girl only, subject to
meeting OTHER conditions"!!
George Abraham, UAE