Martin, you are the second person in my life to say that you are born with the ability to cope. The first was a Jewish Psychiatrist friend, in his 60’s whoMessage 1 of 2 , Mar 4View Source
Martin, you are the second person in my life to say that you are born with the ability to cope. The first was a Jewish Psychiatrist friend, in his 60’s who stated that the way we survive and walk through anxiety is in our genes, but also to the others without this ability, it can be taught and they have to be guided. Some are more resilient and adaptable than others and I think this can be said of the Kresy colonists.
I was disturbed that Hollywood wanted to make movie of Young Stalin and portray him as some notorious hero/criminal. Equating him to Hitler, Gengis Khan, Nero and others.
Also, I always thought that Stalin was Stalin and nothing else but apparently his original name was Josef Vissarionovich Djugashvili and he was a Georgian.
But for those who want to dabble in history and perhaps the psychological evaluation of why Stalin did what he did, with history of his crimes against the Kresy people, then it would be a good book to read.
Am always more than a little wary of psychological speculations as to how people developed their character. My own research and investigations into how the mind works suggests to me that it is literally impossible to find any key turning point or crossroads moment. We are the product of our genes together with every single experience from the moment of conception, and each experience adds to the complex persona we call “I” or “me”. This goes for Stalin, Hitler as much as for each of us.
Huge incidents such as our forebears experienced going to, in, and from Siberia would, one expect, utterly transform character. People point to traits in survivors and make an automatic link between what they are like and what happened to them during the war. I’ve heard so many people say this about my father. Yet my discussions with my two aunts - his sisters - reveal that Dad had these characteristics from childhood, way before the hint of war.
It is usually the accumulation of thousands of tiny moments that most influence the genetic potentials we have. Anyone interested in this should read and practice for themselves something called mindfulness, a highly-researched and robust way of looking at one’s own mind safely. It is now used both as a self-managed treatment for depression and anxiety or stress, and as a way to improve happiness, wellbeing and calmness. I have found the practice - I deliver a free class weekly in my home town in Hamilton, Scotland - gave me great insights into not only my emotional relationship to Siberia and the events therein, but to my dad, aunts, and grandparents that were greatly freed from my deep pre-formed perceptions and emotional biases. This fresh more liberated perspective in turn helped me gain new insights which were produced as poetry, now in my book For There is Hope, and more is in draft form for the book on dad’s family’s experiences up to 1947 which I hope to complete by the end of this year.
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