Well, I hope you continue to visit Generation-Mixed;
reading the posts here will help you to not feel so alone.
Also, I'd urge you to keep in mind that how you choose
to 'identify' need not be a life-long committment.
For example, I 'identified' as "black" when I was a lot younger
(mainly b/c I lived in a predominantly black neighborhood,
and I wanted to fit in), but when I got older, and gained
more control over my life, I began to identify as Multiracial.
Ultimately, it's about being happy with yourself,
not trying to make everyone else happy.
Nevertheless, I understand how you are tired of
always explaining your background to everyone.
Most of us here in this group can relate to that.
Well, I wish you the best! And if you have a myspace
account or create one in the near future, feel free
to visit me at www.myspace.com/mulattaloca
I have blog where I write a lot about my experiences
being Multiracial; you may find it helpful.
mudathira kadu <mudathirakhalfan@...> wrote:
u seem to have a pretty good idea on what its like,
i am pretty glad i found this site, i had no idea there was
a support group (or atleast thats how it felt like it 2 me),
any how, i decided to use the one drop rule
when i start university this september.
I know this might sounds like i am giving in
to the ignorance, but trust me it wil save me
a lot of time of reiteration and proving a fact.
Funny how after i wrote the post i asked my dad,
"dad if i gave u a questionnaire that asked
u your ethnic background, what would u check?"
and he said east indian and regions close to that,
n I was like yea but ur mom is african, n he says,
but i dont look like one and was'nt brought up like a tanzanian,
then i was like so what am i if mom is arab and u chose to be
what ever u want to be and grandma is tanzanian, n hes like,
i dunno, dont think about it, just say tanzanian coz u look more
from there, and i was like what about lil sis, she looks indian,
and hes liek then she should check the same box i would check.
he eventually got sick of my questions, my mom doesnt even
want 2 talk about it, she says i should worry about my
accomplishment and my ethnic background doesnt define me,
even though i keep debating i realised i should
just take the easy way out (one drop rule).
and i sometimes wish my mom married an arab like her self so
my siblings and i didnt have to go through this confusion,
any ways, i just wanted to thank u again.
im gonna try to let go of this topic from now on so i can get past
this whole thing, coz the more i think about it the worse i feel
at how not every one in the world sees what i am composed of.
I think it gets a little better after high school,
because as adults we have more choice in who we
hang around with and how we spend our time.
But, yeah, people of all ages
unfortunately must face ignorance.
"c09981" <c09981@...> wrote:
I wish I could tell you that all of this is
going to change once school is over, but its not.
Much like other members of this group, we'll all
may have to deal with this in one way or another.
I'm Irish and Black. I look mainly just
Irish; especially if I straighten my hair.
I go crazy when people find out I'm biracial and
examine my face as if all of the sudden it will hit them.
I in my school days I seemed to have issues with White
people more ... I'd get the saying "Wow, you'd never know".
Almost like they thought I was trying to keep it a secret.
When I got to college, I went to an all
"black" school and it was a different story.
When people found out they seemed relieved that a
White chick wasn't infiltrating their environment.
It use to bother me, especially since my siblings
are so much more obiouvsly biracial.
But, then I realized that the only reason that bothered
me was because people accepted them more because they
could look at them and come to an easy conclusion
and with me they were always left questioning.
I had to come to the point where what people thought
and how they decided they would define me didn't
change who I was and how I define myself.
So, while the ignorance may never pass away...
it will only make your resolve stronger! Take care.
"mulatta_loca" <rosanna_armendariz@> wrote:
Many of the people who post on this
group have had similar experiences.
As for me, I'm Jamaican, Ecuadorian, and Polish.
Most people say that I look Hispanic, and
therefore expect me to identify that way.
However, I don't feel that would be true to the diversity
of my background, so I identify as Multiracial.
I think you should identify in whatever way
feels right to you, because you can't please
all of the people all of the time.
Just be yourself and try not to let
the ignorance of others get you down.
This is pretty wierd; talking about race in a yahoo group I bumped
in to while surfing about ethnicity when I couldnt find answers
from my family or friends. I come from a pretty diverse family.
My parents were both born in East Africa a country called Tanzania,
its place is pretty well known to be a former location for arabs
and other trades people from asian countries near by to practice
business and some have even married in to the natives there.
My grandfather is originally from Afganistan and went there
to start a small trade and ended up marrying a Tanzanian woman.
My mother on the other hand, both her parents are originally
from Yemen which is a country in the Middle East.
They culturally considered themselves Tanzanians since
they were raised there, but in regards to their
ethnicity they both had their own definition.
My dad considers himself biracial but I noticed he is
more inclined to the Afgani side and my mom and her
entire family are known to every one hear as Arabs.
The funny thing is, people usually consider me and my
younger brother as black but most black people usually
question me if my parents were both biracial.
In school when I started this year and I was asked my
ethnicity and decided to include all of the above,
most people did not acknowledge them.
In fact, a black girl in school even said
that am more in to the arab culture while
I should just stick to the fact am black.
When I bumped in to some of my new friends in a restaurant
while was with my parents, they were shocked when I
introduced them, they were both lighter skinned
and had less ethnic african features.
I hate being labelled, but that is all what people do.
While I am proud to say I am part Tanzanian, that
is not all I am, yet most black people think I
am being condascengin to my african blood.
It is ridiculous, my sister looks hispanic and she
is never labelled, yet because me and my brother
are darker and have more prominant features
we have to identify as being black period?
My mother's family treat us like we are not apart of
them because we are darker and have the African blood.
Half of my dad's side treat us like we are not even a
part of them because we dont have enough indian features.
In fact my grandfather likes my sister
better because she resembles him more.
I somtimes get so fed up of convincing people that I end up
saying when a stranger asks me my background I say "yea,
am east african", and if they are like, "oh is that it?
but you have brown hair and you dont look pure african"
and I'd be soo frustrated by this mixed reviews
I'd say "listen, I am east african and thats it,
about the dliuted features, ask the mail man".
I really dont know how to be me and often
the issue of ethnicity bothers me a lot.
I do not want to be criticised by my frends for being like
Jessica Alba when I am not, I accept all my ethnicities
(she doesnt want to be called a Latina) I lived and was born
in the Middle East most of my life and then I came to Canada.
Event though Canada is famous for its Multiculturism,
most of the people I met here are not as open minded
to biracial people as I thought they would be.
If any of you had personal experiences to share
regarding this or any advice, i'd apreciate it.