No, Nicola, you apparently don't understand.
I've tried to be nice and considerate but enough is enough.
Look, when someone tells you point blank that you are offending them
and you continue, it goes beyond being simply rude. It rolls over
into disrespectul and not giving a damn. Period. Simply put: I've
had to hear and/or be exposed to that racist garbage for 48 years. I
come into a group that is by the moderator's definiti"on, NOT YOURS:
DUTCH-ENGLISH-STUDY-GROUP · Dutch and/or English study group
for "independent" learners who do not have exposure/access to Native
NOWHERE, does it state this is a linguistics group and even if it
were that would NOT give you the right to repeatedly and
intentionally insult not only me but other members of the group.
If someone is stepping on your foot and you tell them it hurts and to
stop YET that person continues to step on your foot and in fact
applies even MORE pressure causing more pain it is safe to call that
person not only inconsiderate but ABUSIVE.
I will say no more on this subject. I've made myself very clear and
I don't think this group is the proper place for you OR me to
continue this discussion. You may contact me by instant messenger if
you want to continue but I do not welcome anymore of your e-mails.
Hope de Waardt
--- In DUTCH-ENGLISH-STUDY-GROUP@y..., "Nicola Daniele"
> I understand. But nevertheless, I will continue using all
> words - this is linguistics after all. You can censor
> insulting words, but does that mean there's no longer
> any racism or sexism?
> I'm also - as you can imagine - quite aware of what this
> word means. But to imply that I use it not as a quote, but
> as real insulting speech is insulting to me. I hope YOU can
> understand that.
> I just wanted to say that words change their meanings according
> to context, but also diachronically of c. think of the word "wijf"
> Dutch: that was once the ordinary word for woman, but now it's an
> insulting term. And always bear in mind, "One man's terrorist is
> another man's freedom fighter".
> The same is true of "neger". I guess this is no longer used in
> except by people who want to insult others, or by very old-
> ppl (is there a distinction? well... hard to say I guess. some ppl
> just don't realize. Of c, I also didn't realize that by QUOTING the
> word in order to prove a point (namely that words have different
> sociolinguistic implications etc.) that some ppl may be insulted.
> This is of course true in general, in all languages, if I'd use the
> word in German (only as a quote) it may be still perceived as
> insulting. The difference is that even with German words that are
> very insulting it's not that problematic to quote those words - I'm
> sure that's rather different in the US.
> And as i said, I think it is very important to use those words
> accepted by the majority of a group, i.e. say "My Aunt is Jewish"
> rather than "My Aunt's a Jew" or "My aunt's a Jewess" which would
> very insulting.
> But when talking about "bad words", what do you do - you just don't
> mention them - i.e. not talk about them?