Thanks to Hub for sharing this piece. The advice is right on for all parents.
As a building principal, I would often hear well-meaning parents defending their children by saying they didn't want their child to have to go through what they had to go through. My response was always, "Why not? What you went through taught you how to solve problems, build confidence, and made you what you are today. To deny your child that experience would be unfortunate."
I would go on to say that if their child is unfairly placed in a situation, or it requires more skills than he/she has at that age, we (the staff and myself) would intervene on their behalf. Otherwise, we would try to present models for the child's behavior and actions. More often than not I was able to win them over.
I saw a thought-provoking poster, of all places on the wall above a urinal, that read something like, "Showing anger and frustration while watching sporting events with your child teaches him to be aggressive."
Finally, do what the police tell you to do. You can dispute it later.
John Small, '52
Pleasant Hills, PA