CHI RHO CONNECTION
The eNewsletter of Chi Rho Press,
Your LGBT Christian Publishing House
Vol. VI, No. 18
3 November 2005
1. 2006 Liturgical Calendar
2. Acceptance, Tolerance, Intolerance, and Bigotry
3. From the Editor's Cave
4. Have you started your Christmas shopping?
5. "Christian with a Twist"
6. Sanctoral Cycle
7. Adam's Last Word
This issue's Quotes:
"Idolatry is committed not merely by setting up false
gods, but also by setting up false devils."
G. K. Chesterton
"Beware lest we mistake our prejudices for our
Harry A. Ironside
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1. 2006 Liturgical Calendar
The 2005-2006 Liturgical Calendar and Lectionary, Year B
is now on the Chi Rho Press Web site. You may view it and
order it at this link:
The 2005-2006 Liturgical Calendar and Lectionary sells
for 11.95 each, $9.50 each for six or more copies, plus
shipping and handling.
The Lectionary in the Liturgical Calendar is from the
Revised Common Lectionary, widely used as the ecumenical
consensus on readings for each Sunday and holy day in the
three-year cycle. Our Liturgical Calendar is packed with
useful information for planning worship and preaching in
the local church for each Sunday and Holy Day of the Church
Year. It is intended for use by pastors, musicians, altar
guilds, teachers, theological students, and anyone using
the Church Year as a basis for worship or education. The
Liturgical Calendar is spiral bound so it can lie flat for
easy use, in the popular 8 ½" x 11" format.
Featured in this new Liturgical Calendar are these sections:
A Heading that identifies the day in the church year (for
example, the first Sunday of Advent, or Proper 20) with
alternative descriptions where appropriate. The Revised
Common Lectionary readings, including a brief summary of
each reading. (These are intended as only a very brief
overview to identify general themes as an aid to worship
planning. We do not represent them as anything approaching
a thorough exegesis.) The First Reading is usually from
the Hebrew Testament, but there are exceptions, such as
the use of readings from Acts during the Easter season.
These are sometimes selected thematically to fit the
Liturgical Calendar, but often are simply being read
through key passages over a series of weeks. This is
followed by a Response, usually a Psalm. The Epistle
Reading is next, like the Hebrew Testament Reading
typically a series of key passages from the same book
being read over a number of weeks. Finally the Gospel
Reading follows the story of Jesus through the Christmas
and Easter cycles, plus the teachings of Jesus the rest
of the year.
Next is a section on Worship Planning, including the
liturgical Color of the day, Symbols and decorations
that can be used to enhance the worship experience, and
Special Events for the week which the congregation may
want to remember and commemorate on Sunday.
Rev. Witt has added lots of Notes in the Worship Planning
section, which serve to explain in more detail information
about the time of the church year, provide resources for
further study and information, and develop liturgical
themes to make your worship experience more rich and
The last section for each Sunday is called Following
God's Footprints and is the unique contribution of
Raye-Anne Dorn, a former Roman Catholic priest (before
her transition). For every day of the year, Raye-Anne
gives us a traditional saint, with a brief overview of
an important theme for which the saint is remembered
and what that particular saint can teach us. Some
Diversity Dates are also included, special occasions
for celebrations of diversity, such as special celebration
days for specific cultures (e.g., Cinco de Mayo) and
special days for the GLBT community (e.g., a day of
remembrance for Matthew Shepard).
As a special added section, we have included alternative
readings for the four Sundays of Pride-Tide (June) prepared
by the Rev. Gordon McCoy. The four sets of readings for
Pride-Tide may be used at any time in the year that the
faith community celebrates LGBT Pride. The standard
Revised Common Lectionary readings are included for the
four Sundays in June as well.
The 2005-2006 Liturgical Calendar will be a helpful aid
for anyone involved in planning worship, as well as a
useful resource for all who want to know more about the
Church year and the rich liturgical life of the Church
Universal. We think you will like this new Liturgical
Order the 2006 Calendar at this new link:
The 2006 Liturgical Calendar and Lectionary sells for
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shipping and handling.
2. Acceptance, Tolerance, Intolerance, and Bigotry
Our friend Ninure Saunders from Chicago, Illinois, USA,
sent this recently. We think it is a good illustration
of the differences between acceptance, tolerance,
intolerance, and bigotry. What do you think? We share
it with you with Ninure's kind permission.
Acceptance: There are peas on my plate. Peas are not
my first choice to eat when I am humgry, but I eat them.
Tolerance: There are peas on my plate. I don't care
for peas, I am not that hungry, so I leave them alone.
Intolerance: There are peas on my plate. I HATE peas.
I hurl the plate on the floor and jump and down on the
peas. I try to file criminal charges against the person
who cooked the peas.
Bigotry: There are peas on my plate. Not only do I
hate peas, I hate the people who cook them, who grow
them, and anyone who likes them. I spend a great deal
of my time trying to outlaw peas, and deprive anyone
who grows or likes them of their human rights. I
proclaim that anyone who has anything to do with peas
hates God, abuses children, and is a terrorist.
3. From the Editor's Cave
By Adam DeBaugh
[This article is the second of a series published
in the "Epi-Grams," the newsletter of the health
studies area of Westat. Adam is the editor of
"Epi-Grams." Since "Epi-Grams" is only published
quarterly, the next in this series will not be
available until December.]
"Do you know the difference between a terrorist and
an editor? You can negotiate with a terrorist."
Well, I'm back. I didn't get fired for the last
edition of Epi-Grams and the first of these very
personal screeds "From the Editor's Cave," so here
we are with another one. This time I want to
reflect a bit on civility, beginning with business
I was told recently that we don't start e-mails
with a Salutation, as in "Dear Mr. DeBaugh."
Oh, I suppose I can parrot all the arguments:
"Dear" is too personal. E-mails are by their
nature informal. E-mails should also be short
and adding a Salutation adds to the unwanted
length. Business e-mails are different from
business letters. I just don't have the time
to type all that. Uh huh.
Again I say, "Since when?"
I react most strongly to a couple of theses notions.
First, that the use of the word "Dear" in a
Salutation is too personal, even intimate.
Again the refrain, "SINCE WHEN?" I'll be
happy to stipulate that should one begin an
e-mail, "My Dear Adam," what follows better
be a love letter, and not one containing that
old "I Love You" virus! But every source book
I know says that business letters begin with
the Salutation, "Dear Mr. DeBaugh" or the more
informal "Dear Adam" (unless of course you are
writing to someone with a different name!).
When used in a business letter Salutation, "Dear"
is not a personal or intimate formulation. It is
common courtesy. Yes, it's rather OLD common
courtesy. I will stipulate that. But you know
that I am rather old fashioned, especially when
it comes to our common language. I am the guy
you may occasionally run into in the halls darkly
muttering, "Where are standards?" and other
imprecations and scowling with a forbidding look.
It is possible that you were the one who made some
egregious grammatical error or are guilty of an
especially annoying linguistic tic that got my
ire up. (Perhaps you said, "At the end of the
day" in conversation!)
But courtesy is still courtesy, even when contained
in an e-mail.
The second notion is that business e-mails are
informal creatures and not subject to the basic
norms of politeness and civility. Well. Why is
that? Why do we sink to the lowest common
denominator with our language and our manners
simply because we are communicating via electronic
Why has e-mail been relegated to the realm of the
excruciatingly informal, the casual, the flip, and
the semi-literate? Why do our standards slip simply
because we are using a rather instantaneous
My great fear is that our standards have not slipped
at all, but this is the level of written communication
to which our culture and our society has sunken. If
that is the case, to quote Mr. Thomas Jefferson,
"Indeed I tremble for my country when I reflect that
God is just." Yes, e-mail is fast: fast to write,
fast to send, fast to receive. And I am too often
guilty of not proof reading more carefully before
hitting the Send key, or being more sloppy than usual
with my grammar, or making the mistake of letting Mr.
Gates' pernicious Spell Check take over and decide
what my e-mails should say.
But is that the people we want to be? Is that the
kind of culture we wants to promulgate? Is that who
we are, as individuals, as professionals, as a company?
So I am sorry, but e-mails begin, as do all polite
business communications, with a properly worded
Salutation. And for e-mails sent outside of Westat,
"Hi Adam" does not qualify. Nor do we immediately
launch into the body of our communication. It's like
not saying "Good morning" when you first see a co-worker.
But wait, we do that as well!
Here's the bottom line for me: it really doesn't take
that much time to type "Dear Adam," or to say, "Good
morning," or even to ask about each other's health,
or how the weekend was. Oh yes, I know, I can hear
some of you saying, "I'm too busy for that." Yes, too
busy for a few seconds of the niceties, a bare moment
of politeness, a shred of basic human concern. You are
SO important, SO busy. I understand. I really do.
(Can you feel the sarcasm dripping off the chin?)
Yet I say, if you are too busy to care about your co-
workers, too busy for some basic manners, then you are
simply too busy. And to quote a wise and wonderful
woman of my acquaintance, "You need to get over your
Informality is not a bad thing. I still bridle when
some barely literate caller from some company manages
to get through my telephonic defenses and begins by
calling me "Adam" right off. I'm sorry, but do I
know you? Have you been given my permission to use
my first name? Were you not taught to address
strangers by their last names, especially older
people? Where are standards?
I believe that informality can and has degenerated
into a slovenliness and a lack of manners and courtesy,
both in the written and the spoken word. We are
downright rude. Is that who we want to be?
My concern is that the lack of civility in the little
things gradually escalates into a lack of civility in
the greater things of life, and that results in a
breakdown of civil society and the body politic. Do
you think it is your right to simply cut in on a line
of cars waiting patiently at a highway exit? Is it
appropriate to apply your makeup or shave your surly
face while driving to work? Is it considerate to be
braying into your cell phone while waiting at the
doctor's office or on line at the Giant or in other
public spaces? (And do NOT get me started on the
moral ciphers who chat away on their cell phones
while driving, zipping in and out of traffic! More
and more sensible jurisdictions are making the use
of a cell phone while driving illegal.)
Somehow it has become acceptable to inconvenience,
delay, and even endanger others in our quest for
speed, for our own convenience, for our own selfish
ends. Is that who we want to be?
My point is that the lack of civility, of common
courtesy, of simple manners does not take that much
time out of our busy lives, and improves the quality
of life for those around us and for ourselves. We
need to get back to civility! You may begin by
addressing your caviling e-mails of protestation
and complaint, with the Salutation, "Dear Adam."
Here endeth the lesson.
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5. "Christian with a Twist"
Here is a selection from our second major book of
reflections, "Christian with a Twist: Reflections
on Scripture that are a bit more inclusive, a bit
more relevant, and with a bit of a bite," by the
late William Gaston.
"Christian with a Twist" is available for $19.95 each,
$14.95 each for six or more copies, plus shipping and
handling. You can read more about it and order it at
As the subtitle suggests, Bill's writing has a bit
of a bite, and we believe you will enjoy his sharp,
but loving take on Scripture, life, and faith.
Here is a selection entitled "Demons" from the
Ordinary Time section of "Christian with a Twist."
Please read Luke 8:26-39
Jesus could walk into any major city in our society
and quickly run into men and women similar to the
demoniac in today's scripture passage. Some of them
have had the experience of being bound or shut away,
and are afraid of those who would dare to approach to
help them. The institutions where we used to lock
them away have been largely emptied, but the people
remain now scattered throughout our cities with their
shopping carts of belongings.
Our street people are rarely naked, but they are often
clothed in filthy rags. They smell, they urinate out
in public, and they frighten us. Are we afraid that
the demons that dwell in them might come into our own
herd? Demons do have a way of affecting the masses.
As Christians and good people we desire to help, but
not to get too close. Our own leaders, shepherds,
and swineherds offer programs, even faith-based ones,
to funnel our tax dollars to help these poor souls;
after a part of the surplus is returned to us, of
We want to help, but we do not want our Jesus associating
too closely with these people. We are not comfortable
seeing them sitting at his feet. We do not really want
them in our sanctuaries church basements and weekdays
are better times and places for our faith-based
initiatives. But not to worry. Jesus has not come
by in awhile, and few if any of our street people are
going about proclaiming the blessings they have received
from his followers.
6. Sanctoral Cycle
As a regular feature in the Chi Rho Connection, we
are offering up traditional saints listed in the 2005
Liturgical Calendar and Lectionary from today until
our next scheduled electronic newsletter.
Mon., Oct. 31, St. Bademus. Fear: There can be no
peace or happiness except in the service of God; those
who desert this blessed service open the floodgates of
misery. "What benefit did you reap at that time from
the things you are now ashamed of? Those things result
in death!" (Romans 6:21).
Tues., Nov. 1, All Saints Day. Remembrance of the dead:
The feast celebrated today is one of the greatest of the
church's festivals. "Let us turn to the martyrs and
saints and call upon them to be our protectors not only
on their festivals but at other times; for they can be
bolder of speech in death than when they lived, since
they now bear in their bodies the marks of Jesus Christ,"
St. John Chrysostom.
Diversity Date: November is Native American Heritage Month.
November is also National Diabetes Awareness Month.
Wed., Nov. 2, St. Martin de Porres (Patron saint:
beauticians, African Americans, racial harmony).
Charity and kindness: St. Martin is the first of
the African American saints. The example of Martin's
life is ample evidence that we can strive for holiness
and salvation as Christ Jesus has shown us: first, by
loving God "with all your heart, with all your soul,
and with all your mind; and second, by loving your
neighbor as yourself."
Diversity Date: November 2 is All Souls Day
Thurs., Nov. 3, St. Malachy of Armagh. Pray for those
who have gone before us: St. Malachy teaches us that
we must remember in our prayers not only our own needs
and those we know who have died and the departed faithful,
but all the dead whenever, where ever: these are the
multitudes who have no one to remember them.
Fri., Nov. 4, St. Charles Borromeo (Patron saint:
seminarians). Daily renewal: Daily resolutions to
fulfill, come what ever may, every duty asked by God,
is the lesson taught by St. Charles. It is a lesson
we must learn if we are to overcome our weaknesses
and lead upright lives.
Sat., Nov. 5, St. Albert the Great (Patron saint:
medical technicians). The material creation: The
material creation is God's handiwork no less than the
immaterial creation. God may be known in the beauty,
order, and wonders of all nature, which glorifies God
and can lead us to God. Study and the use of the
material creation, or science, is an activity highly
befitting Christians and to delight in and thank God
for that creation is a Christian obligation.
Sun., Nov. 6, St. Stanislaus Kostka. Patron saints:
St. Stanislaus teaches us that in every trial life
sends our way, and above all at the hour of our death,
to ask the prayers of our patron saint and to trust
fearlessly in their aid. "But the eyes of the Lord
are on the righteous and God's ears are attentive to
their cry; the face of the Lord is against those who
do evil, to cut off the memory of them from the earth"
Mon., Nov. 7, St. Willibrord. Zeal: True zeal has
its roots in the love of God. It is therefore kind
and tactful, not fanatical or bigoted. It can never
be idle; it must labor, toil, be up and doing. It
glows like fire, and like fire it can spread endlessly.
This is the spirit that should be within us. "I have
come to bring fire on the earth, and how I wish it
were already kindled!" (Luke 12:49).
Tues., Nov. 8, St. Oswald of Northumbria. Perseverance
in prayer: St. Oswald recovered his kingdom with the
help of prayer! He converted his subjects to
Christianity and attained great holiness, all through
the power and perseverance of prayer. If we prayed
more, how much more would be given to us and what
great ends we could achieve!
Wed., Nov. 9, St. Theodore of Tiro. Constancy and
courage: As Christians we are all enlisted in the
same service as the martyrs of old, we fight under
the same banner of the same victorious ruler; and
we too must have courage and constancy if we would
be good soldiers of Christ. Let us join with them
in confessing the faith of Christ, that we too may
have a part with them in Christ's kingdom.
Thurs., Nov. 10, St. Andrew Avellino. Preparation
for death: St. Andrew is one of the saints invoked
against sudden death. He was able to receive the
last sacraments before he died, which many people
cannot because they have put them off until too late.
A good life, the last anointing, and viaticum (last
communion prior to death) ensure a good death.
Fri., Nov. 11, St. Martin of Tours. Working for
Christ: It is written that Satan once appeared to
St. Martin in royal garb, representing himself to
be the son of God. "My Savior did not come in
princely state. Where are the print of the nails
and the scars of the wounds?" asked the saint.
The fiend vanished. It was for Christ crucified
that Martin worked. Are you working for the same
Sat., Nov. 12, St. Didacus. The gift of speech:
If God is in your heart, then surely God will be
on your lips also, for Christ has said, "Out of
the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks."
Sun., Nov. 13, St. Frances Xavier Cabrini. Refusal
to be discouraged: St. Frances Cabrini is the first
American to be canonized. In the difficulties with
which we have to contend we must arm ourselves with
courage, which consists not only in making the most
of good things, but also of the outfacing and
overcoming of the obstacles in our way, with the
help of God, that is always at hand.
Mon., Nov. 14, St. Josaphat. Suffering for the
Church: St. Josaphat Kunsevich, like St. Thomas
Becket, died for Christ by dying for His church, the
one for her unity and the other for her freedom. Do
we remember to thank God that in our country the
Church enjoys complete freedom, both to live her
life and to extend her membership?
Tues., Nov. 15, St. Winifred. Prayers of the Saints:
"The prayers of the saints have mighty power to help
our need; but they are specially effective when we
help ourselves by doing penance, and seek to obtain
what we ask by striving after better things," St.
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7. Adam's Last Word
The Installation of the Rev. Elder Nancy Wilson as
Moderator of the Metropolitan Community Churches was
last Saturday. It was a magnificent event! Our
Moderator is like a Presiding Bishop and is the
head of our denomination. Nancy succeeds the Rev.
Elder Troy Perry, who retired this year. She is
only the second head of communion MCC has had and
one of the few, if not the only woman to head a
The Installation took place at the Washington National
Cathedral in Washington, DC, and was an event filled
with joy, reverence, and celebration. Nancy preached
from the Canterbury Pulpit, where Dr. Martin Luther
King Jr. preached his last sermon and from which many
notable religious leaders have spoken over the long
history of the National Cathedral.
MCC clergy from all over the world processed, all
dressed in their finest vestments, a mass choir sung
beautifully, backed up with a small orchestra and
the great organ of the Cathedral. There were
greetings from many different religious leaders.
Of course, since we are MCC, there was communion.
Nancy and the Rev. Elder Don Eastman con-celebrated
communion and over 20 communion stations distributed
the Eucharist and a short prayer to the people in
the packed Cathedral.
The sun pouring through the stained glass windows
of the Cathedral Church of St. Peter and St. Paul
added to a glorious day.
Chi Rho Press adds our voice to the many who are
excited by his new ministry for Nancy Wilson, and
we are keeping her and all the MCCs around the world
in prayer as we begin this new phase of the worldwide
ministry of MCC.
We are excited about the production of the Liturgical
Calendar and Lectionary for the 2005-2006 church year,
Year B in the reckoning of the Revised Common
Lectionary. Please order your copy today!
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Gracia y paz,
R. Adam DeBaugh, Director, Adam@...
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