When others do things that we do not LIKE then we begin to DISLIKE them. When other do things that we LIKE then we begin to LIKE them. So ultimately what is
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others do things that we do not LIKE then we begin to DISLIKE them.
When other do things that we LIKE then we begin to LIKE them. So
ultimately what is important is not what others do and do not do but
rather noticing what we LIKE and do DISLIKE (usually in relation to what
others do and do not do). The noticing that we should do is that
SUFFERING arises when we are faced with something that we DISLIKE and
PLEASURE arises when we are faced with something we LIKE. While SEEING
& UNDERSTANDING this, it is important to not give rise to ANGER
towards those things that we DISLIKE or give rise to strong CRAVING for
those things that we LIKE. This is what is important as a practice at
the mind level, understanding what we LIKE and DISLIKE and not giving
rise to strong CRAVING or ANGER in relation to LIKES and DISLIKES.
The thought arises that 'They are saying x, y and z about me.' The real
problem here is not that others are talking about one, but rather that
one does DISLIKES others speaking about one. The untrained mind then
develops ANGER towards those people who are talking about one, rather
than SEEING & UNDERSTANDING that the real problem is that one
DISLIKES others talking about oneself, which is why ANGER is arising. So
the solution is when a thought arises that 'Others are talking about me
' notice the LIKING or DISLIKING within oneself and dealing with THAT
appropriately, i.e. without ANGER or strong CRAVING. The rest and
others we have not control over whatsoever. This is acting with wisdom.
May you attain the lasting peace of Nibbana!
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