this thing of detaching ourselves
from friends and relatives
isn't detachment in the sense of being uninvolved,
it's just being balanced in the way that we relate to them.
but recognizing that we can't always be
with the people we like the most.
And that those people we like the most haven't always been the people we like the most either!
So no sense to always be so attached to them.
And that frees our mind much more to enjoy the people we're with."
From: Detaching Ourselves From the Eight Worldly Concerns (pdf file)
By Ven Thubten Chodron
Dharma Friendship Foundation, Seattle 1991/2
with metta / Antony.