When you see how your afflictions run your life, how out of control you are and how in control the afflictions are, instead of getting angry and thinking, MyMessage 1 of 134 , Jun 10, 2004View Source"When you see how your afflictions run your life, how out of control
you are and how in control the afflictions are, instead of getting
angry and thinking, 'My mind is so uncontrolled, how can I be like
this?' have, instead, a sense of compassion for yourself. We are
trying to be happy, trying not to have pain, but look at what the
mind is doing. It is just constantly creating the causes for more and
more pain and confusion. This is sad, so have a sense of sadness and
a sense of compassion for yourself and wish yourself to be free of
"Have a sense of tenderness, understanding, and patience with
yourself because you know you mean well, but then you just get
overpowered by the afflictions. The more you can have that kind of
tenderness and patience with yourself, instead of coming on to
yourself with the judgment thing, then the more you can start to turn
that same tenderness and compassion and patience towards other people
when you see them being angry or acting destructive."
~ Ven. Thubten Chodron, "The Unsatisfactory Experiences of the Demi-
gods and Gods; The Root Afflictions part 1 of 5 (lightly edited
transcript) Dharma Friendship Foundation, Seattle. 21 Sep 92
May this be of benefit
The Dalai Lama was once asked who is your role model? He replied immediately, The Weeper. The Weeper is a man in Tibet who is so moved by even theMessage 134 of 134 , Jul 24, 2008View Source"The Dalai Lama was once asked
"who is your role model?"
He replied immediately,
"The Weeper. The Weeper is a man in Tibet who is so moved by even the
smallest or slightest suffering, that he weeps whenever he sees
Shedding tears of compassion is one of the dimensions of being human.
Our feelings are not just about our "personal stuff".
They're part of the gift of our emotional intelligence,
part of the gift of our larger selves.
This is not to say we should indulge or wallow in our pain for the
Nor is it good to wallow in too many TV/media images of suffering.
Stay fairly well-informed,
but stay open to the immediacy of life around you,
and allow compassion to arise from that."