If you had read my posting carefully you would have noticed that i actually believe that there are monogamous sexual practices and that is a good way to contain the virus. GREAT! But tell that to the number of women who land up in the counseling centers run by SANGRAM. All your experiences are as valid as mine are - I do not dispute that.
My bewilderment is because of the context you are having this discussion in. That is not recognizing my context. I DO NOT dispute your context at all. I am surprised by Ted's analysis because he falls into the same trap he is accusing the Global AIDS Mafia [ Which exists, by the way] and
falling into the same trap of `either or'. Just as monogamy exists so does multi partner sexual practice. I cannot be Judgmental about either practice.
Anyone working on issues related to women's rights will tell you that we live in a society which practices patriarchy and which limits women's living in many ways. Working with sex workers in the past two decades has helped me understand that sexual practices of individual men are very complex and are not governed by `norms'. We made that mistake earlier in the epidemic where we thought certain classes and even castes are well protected by the norms they follow.
This is simply not true. Just as monogamy exists so does multi partner sexual practice. I am surprised by Ted's analysis because he falls into the same trap he is accusing the Global AIDS Mafia [ Which exists, by the way] and falling into the same trap of `either or'.
Thank god for condoms. Some of us would have NO sexual lives if we did not have them and I refuse to be made to feel guilty that i actually use one or that i believe in this piece of rubber. Generations of sexual mores and norms have played with my head and body denying me a happy, pleasurable and healthy sexual life. I'm damned if the Virus will be allowed to do the same!
I am thankful for the package as it were, including the rhetoric! At least i have life. I would like to offer this to my fellow human beings as an option. They may not have the same needs as I but if any of my sexual partners are monogamous I hope to protect their right to safety!
This is a good discussion. Let us thank Ted for that but let us not turn it into mere criticisms.
Meena Saraswathi Seshu.