This is a list for discussing Autonomy Respecting Relationships (ARR): non-coercive, consent-based relationships, and in particular how to change or replace romantic/sexual/love/marriage relationships to be non-coercive and consensual.

It applies the ideas of Taking Children Seriously, Popperian epistemology, and other aspects of that worldview.

Relationships as practiced today routinely hurt people (e.g. breakups, fights) and pressure them to conform to expectations, socially imposed obligations, and roles (e.g. husband, brother) and punish deviance from those roles. ARR objects to all this, as well as all the gross irrationality surrounding sexual and courtship behavior.

We envision a world where people have lifestyles providing freedom, live according to their own thoughtful minds, and are not hurt. We want to create the knowledge necessary for that.

Please begin by asking questions and trying to understand what ARR is about, or reading through the archives and Fallible Ideas.

You should read the ARR Introduction, explanation of how to participate, and Romanticism vs Real Relationships.