Guidelines for Interweave e-group
1 Speak for yourself, not for others.
2. Challenge other's behaviors or ideas, not their motives or their worth
3. No blaming
4. No labeling
5. No threats
6. Send "I" messages rather than "You" messages.
7. Propose the change you want rather than just talking about what you don't like. Be specific and descriptive.
8. Acknowledge your share in creating the conflict or tension.
9 Respect and explore differing experiences of the same event.
10. Evaluate in terms of "costs and benefits" rather than "good and evil"
11. Care enough to read and "listen" to the whole message before you respond. Respond to show understanding of the other before stating your position.
12. Describe feelings rather than acting them out or trying to disguise them.