Welcome Sandy! This is a very common issue, so the good part is as these things go, what you are feeling is "Normal". Jonathan Marsh runs a free web site with...
Thanks for the sugesstion Phil ... From: Amelia@... To: astarttorecovery@yahoogroups.com Subject: RE: [A Start to Recovery] Another Idea Phil Date: Fri,...
In your 2nd paragraph you say you are either feeling guilty or responsible for the actions you listed and then talk about being responsible for the person you...
Attention all computer/internet geeks: Ok...I'll admit something... I have adult attention deficit and one area that it REALLY appears is written directions....
Let us always be open to the miracle of the second chance. ~Reverend David Stier Nunc coepi is a Latin phrase often heard in seminars of old. It means, "Now I...
Hiya Mckenna, Its clear as mud...but I gather if a person attaches something to a message on the message board, it (the attachment) will no longer be kept on...
Thank you very much for responding Amy. I haven't thought it was neccesary to confront everyone. I feel like I have to deal with me and can't worry about what...
Hi, Amy... Thanks for the post. I have a question, and I hope this doesn't sound funny :) Your closing "Be Well" is common terminology in the BDSM realm and...
For me guilt and responsibility go hand in hand. I feel guilty when I do things for me. I am so used to putting everyone else first - it is a very taxing...
THANK YOU !!!!! I tell myself every day: today - i do not have to be perect This saying that you shared says that - but it gives me a direction too. I cannot...
Craig & McKenna That's how I read it also. Attachments will not be kept on posts. If someone wants to have an attachment preserved it would have to be loaded...
Hi John: I was out of town yesterday, just got your post. I'm glad you're seeing things clearly. I really relate to thinking about Drug of Choice having sex...
I posted about a week ago about a guy I know from act out days who called me oh my cell phone last week. This guy struggles with this thing, but is still...
Bill, I have been promised that on the other side of the pain and confusion of withdrawal there is a life of freedom and true fulfillment. I've been clean and...
These changes mean nothing for this group. ASTR is *already* set up to remove attachments; this has happened if you see this at the end of ... Attachment...
McKenna, your share about your DOC...the one that you still love and the insanity and the fact you were both married...sounds IDENTICAL and I mean IDENTICAL to...
McKenna- MAN, I an RELATE so much to this! I, too, cheated on my DOC...I went out to lunch with this "other" guy at work too...oh my GOD...I didn't realize...
... I thought it would be fun to "see" everyone...put a face to a word, and all that...??? Like a family album -Janey Mark <mark_in_california2001@...>...
I have learned that for me, it takes a couple of days away from crazy thoughts/actions for the emotions and chemistry to settle down. And that it will only if...
One of the issues I deal with is how I can "Love" my spouse, and still do the things I do. Though I don't envy the torn love you and McKenna have shared about,...
Yes--it's easier to back off from the BEGINNING of triggers than to wait until I'm in the throes of full-fledged obsession. In other words, reach out for a...
Anna, unfortunately, there is no easy, soft way to "recovery". I could act out with my computer in less then six clicks. I can act out in my car in less then 8...
Hi all. Have spend the day just trying to get through it. Painful phone call with spouse. Working on chores, trying to not focus on the emotional pain I want...
YEs..good advise. It is good to back off..before it gets too intense..I'm not acting out or looking for "slippery" areas. That phone call really threw me for a...
I am obsessive and compulsive in EVERYTHING I do. I am just realizing this. When I start something I go full speed ahead. That is what I have done with...
Hi, Becca.... Wow! Can I relate to this! It was just this sort of behavior...Do-It-All, Fix-Everyone and Everything, and Do-It-PERFECTLY...which led to me...
Hey there, I am just starting a program from the Midwest Center for Anxiety and Depression. It may be something you may want to look it, esp. since it helps...
I would love to hear anything - my husband has social anxiety and depression also as well as addiction and co-dependancy. We could use all the help we can...
Hi Becca, I have been clean and sober in AA for 14 years, struggling with my sexual addiction (porn/chat/mb) for the last five years. About 1 1/2 years ago,...
