Hi me again Karen

I started this group with the hope of getting people in touch with each other
but it has been an uphill struggle.  I wondered where you lived as there are
a lot of organisations in the uk where I live that I can recommend.
Hopefully you will also get some other replies to your plea to chat.

By the by what are the triplets called tell us a little about you and them.

regardss Karen


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Hello,

My triplets are 9.  Talk to me.

--- babyjsmommy2001 <no_reply@yahoogroups.com> wrote:
> I just had triplets.
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Congratulations on having the triplets.  Do you mind me asking what
help you get?  Where do you live (country) maybe people can give you
some ideas for help.

I just had triplets.

Hi Anne

Yes I know what you mean.  It can be easier being on your own as
there is not the commitement of shareing with another adult.  And
when his a slug that must be really hard <Grin> but seriously it can
be easier to not have the tie and to have full control of money etc.
But there are times like now with my move where having a partner
would make things much easier. They have there uses <Grin>

Re my move after living in a large open plan house for almost 20
years I am now moving to a nice regular house made of brick and I am
very happy about it.  It is still in Milton Keynes in Bucks, UK

regards Karen


--- In alonewithmultiples@y..., Justusgirls <smom3@y...> wrote:
> Hi Karen,
>
> I have been alone with them for four years.  It is much easier than
> marriage with a slug.  Where are you moving?
>
> Anne
>
> --- karencrutcher <no_reply@y...> wrote:
> > Hi everybody
> >
> > I am Karen and I started this group.  Being a mother of 7 yr old
> > boy/girl twins who has always brought them up alone I thought it
> > would be a nice way to meet others in a similar situation.  I am
> > keen
> > to get the group more active.  This has been a bad year for me as
> > I
> > have had a lot of trauma but I am now on the up and am in the
> > process
> > of moving which will hopefully give us all a new start.  I would
> > like
> > to thank everyone who has joined this group and apologise for not
> > being a better host recently.  Lets change all that.........
> >
> >
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Hi Karen,

I have been alone with them for four years.  It is much easier than
marriage with a slug.  Where are you moving?

Anne

--- karencrutcher <no_reply@yahoogroups.com> wrote:
> Hi everybody
>
> I am Karen and I started this group.  Being a mother of 7 yr old
> boy/girl twins who has always brought them up alone I thought it
> would be a nice way to meet others in a similar situation.  I am
> keen
> to get the group more active.  This has been a bad year for me as
> I
> have had a lot of trauma but I am now on the up and am in the
> process
> of moving which will hopefully give us all a new start.  I would
> like
> to thank everyone who has joined this group and apologise for not
> being a better host recently.  Lets change all that.........
>
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Hi everybody

I am Karen and I started this group.  Being a mother of 7 yr old
boy/girl twins who has always brought them up alone I thought it
would be a nice way to meet others in a similar situation.  I am keen
to get the group more active.  This has been a bad year for me as I
have had a lot of trauma but I am now on the up and am in the process
of moving which will hopefully give us all a new start.  I would like
to thank everyone who has joined this group and apologise for not
being a better host recently.  Lets change all that.........

Hello! This group is not very active but I thought I would welcome
you and introduce myself as well.
My name is Sheri and I am a single mom of four children.  They are
aged 7, 6, and my fraternal b/g twins are 4.  We live in Ontario
Canada.  Looking forward to getting to know you.
Sheri
--- In alonewithmultiples@y..., "smom3" <smom3@y...> wrote:
> Hi all,
>
> Just introducing myself.  I am a divorced mother of nine year old
> fraternal triplet girls.  Oh I am in the Seattle area

Hi all,

Just introducing myself.  I am a divorced mother of nine year old
fraternal triplet girls.  Oh I am in the Seattle area

Hi everybody.  I am Karen and I started this group.  Thanks to
everyone who's joined.  I though it would be nice to get a chat going
on how we cope.  I have just got back from a holiday I took to
celebrate my twins being 7 it was suppost to be easier then a party
but it was not.  It started badly when the trains did not run and at
the last minute I ended up driving there a over 200 miles each way.
Do you have any ideas on how to celebrate a birthday or any holiday
stories we could share?  The one thing that did count for everything
was that the twins enjoyed it and the younger twin Jesci even won a
contest for another holiday later in the year free.....or is
it......I will still have to cover transport and electricity and
food.  have you had a free holiday that ended up costing you as much
as a normal one?  We would love to hear from you

Karen

Hi Heather,  Has you little girl had her opertation yet?  My eldest
daughter (not a twin) had ENT surgery a couple of years ago.  The op
was fine but she threw up a lot afterwards, so take plenty of changes
of pyjamas/nightdresses, LOL.  I also took lots of books to read to
her and colouring books.

Hope your girls had a lovely birthday.

Becci  (36, UK, twin girls aged 6 and elder daughter aged 8.)

Hi,  This is Heather.  I haven't posted since my intro in April.
Thank you Helen for your response.  I'm sorry I haven't replied.
I've been going, going, going with final this coming week for
school.  The girls birthday was yesterday and I still don't think
I've wrapped my mind around it.  It just doesn't seem possible.  It's
going by so quickly! We aren't having a big party, since I'm broke.
I'm counting on grandma's to pull through for me with the presents.
I've been collecting stuff since before Christmas to re-decorate
their room.  I figure that will be my "present" to them.  One of the
girls will be having eye surgery at the end of May.  She has crossed
eyes and the doctors think they will be sucessfull in correcting it.
I'm really nervous about it.  Has anyone ever had any of their
children go through surgery?  Any advise would be great.  My oldest
boy (9) is going to be in the conference spelling bee tonight.  I get
to the whole clan by myself since my ex is giving me his work
excuse.  I know it's Friday night and that is the real reason he's
not coming out to help.  Anyway, just felt like getting that off my
chest.  Hope everyone is doing well.  By the way, where is everyone
located?  I live in the US,  (Holden, Missouri)  it's a country house
in the midwest about 50-70 miles outside Kansas City.   Heather.

Hi Heather

OMG you are a single parent to triplets, and I thought twins was bad
enough!!  I am sorry you have had a rough time but it is nice to know that
your EX visits the children often and you can get along with him.

I have a son and twin girls that I love to bits.  I am going through a rough
patch with one though, she goes to bed at 6.00pm but keeps waking every
couple of hours.  I go in pick her up and soothe her and then put her back
down and she is quite happy to go back to sleep but I can't figure out how
to stop her waking up.  She is 6 months old so I am hoping this is just a
glitch :o)

Take Care
Helen

----- Original Message -----
From: mommy3x3 <bretta@...>
To: <alonewithmultiples@yahoogroups.com>
Sent: Saturday, April 20, 2002 2:06 PM
Subject: [Alone with Multiples] five children and divorced


> Hi, my name is Heather.  I have 5 children, two boys ages 9 and 6,
> and triplets girls that will be two years old in two weeks.  My
> husband left in the early stages of my pregnancy. At the time we
> didn't know that my pregnancy was multiples (not that it would have
> mattered).  We had had problems off and on for years but the news of
> another baby sent him right out the door.  Within a weeks time he was
> already dating someone else and bringing her into my house while I
> was at work.  Needless to say I told him to get out of the house and
> filed for divorce.  About three months later I found our during my
> ultrasound that I was having triplets girls.  Pregnancy is a really
> great time for me, and even with all the chaos of the split from my
> husband I was fairly happy.  The news of 3 girls just thrilled me.  I
> knew then that I was going to be alright.  That might sound crazy for
> some, but I knew things were going to be alright.  I worried about
> stuff of course, things like equipment, diapers, medical bills, the
> safety of my pregnancy, etc.  Everything went just fine.  My mother
> and father, and church helped me out tremendously.  I even have a
> house that I share with my brother in the country with lots of acres
> for the kids to run around.  I'm currently attending a University to
> get my degree in Music Education.  I've never been happier.  I
> certainly wouldn't change anything.  It is difficult at times
> though.  The divorce was really hard on my two boys since they were
> close to their dad.  He comes to see the kids about once or twice a
> week and he's pretty good about babysitting while I'm at special
> functions for school. I still care about my ex, maybe some day we'll
> be able to put the pieces back together.  I know that I can handle
> anything now though, with or without him to help me. I tend to be
> very chatty, I hope that's alright.  Thanks for listening.  Heather.
>
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Hi, my name is Heather.  I have 5 children, two boys ages 9 and 6,
and triplets girls that will be two years old in two weeks.  My
husband left in the early stages of my pregnancy. At the time we
didn't know that my pregnancy was multiples (not that it would have
mattered).  We had had problems off and on for years but the news of
another baby sent him right out the door.  Within a weeks time he was
already dating someone else and bringing her into my house while I
was at work.  Needless to say I told him to get out of the house and
filed for divorce.  About three months later I found our during my
ultrasound that I was having triplets girls.  Pregnancy is a really
great time for me, and even with all the chaos of the split from my
husband I was fairly happy.  The news of 3 girls just thrilled me.  I
knew then that I was going to be alright.  That might sound crazy for
some, but I knew things were going to be alright.  I worried about
stuff of course, things like equipment, diapers, medical bills, the
safety of my pregnancy, etc.  Everything went just fine.  My mother
and father, and church helped me out tremendously.  I even have a
house that I share with my brother in the country with lots of acres
for the kids to run around.  I'm currently attending a University to
get my degree in Music Education.  I've never been happier.  I
certainly wouldn't change anything.  It is difficult at times
though.  The divorce was really hard on my two boys since they were
close to their dad.  He comes to see the kids about once or twice a
week and he's pretty good about babysitting while I'm at special
functions for school. I still care about my ex, maybe some day we'll
be able to put the pieces back together.  I know that I can handle
anything now though, with or without him to help me. I tend to be
very chatty, I hope that's alright.  Thanks for listening.  Heather.

I would like to wish all the group members a very Happy Easter.  I
expect most of you, like me, have spent the last few days busy making
Easter Bonnets, buying Easter Eggs, and planning things to do during
the holiday.  I have even tried my hand at egg blowing.  Being alone
with the children I really feel like I should put in more effort then
if I had a partner but am not sure why,  Guess I feel guilty for not
being able to make there childhood complete.

Here are some ideas for Easter fun

look at your local newpaper for free or cheap events.

there may be egg rolling or an Easter Bonnet Parade (these do not
have to be expensive)

Have you got a local twins/multiple birth group near you these are
not only for newborns and often arrange events during the holidays.

Take the children to the park.

Go out for a walk (its nice to see the sun) or a bike ride

If you have any ideas please let us all know

Once again Have a good Easter

From Karen Crutcher

Hi! My name is Amy and I am a single mom to 16 month old identical
girls Abigail & Emily.  I work and go to school part time.  I look
forward to getting to know you all.
Amy

Hi folks,well Karen is a very dear friend of mine
and weather she admits it or not she IS a super mum!
<br>I am now a lone parent with boy/girl twins 6yrs and
a daughter 10yrs,my husband and i split up 9 months
ago,it was my choice,the house was constantly ringing
with arguements and my children were not happy so here
i am a mum of 3 coping on my own,to be honest i
never thought i would manage as previous to the split i
had spent almost 2yrs on anti depressants but i guess
i woke up one day and realised it was the marriage
at fault not just me,i now feel i am coping really
well,as karen said i too have my up and down days and the
twins starting school has really helped me cope.<br>at
times i feel like i am a lousy parent,most of the time
its when im tired or have no money,it is hard to stop
the kids having things they are used to but one day
all my kids came and sat on the settee cuddling me
and the little girl looked up to me and said .."mummy
,we all love each other in our house dont we"<br>it
made me feel so proud,they seemed really contented
..thats what makes it all worth while.<br>thanks for
listening to my gibberish folks :-)<br>Mandy x

Hi Steph<br><br>Of course you belong here. I am
in the same sort of situation as my husband works
away, he's usually away for about 3 months at a time
then gets to spend 3 - 5 days at home before going
away again, working for the Foreign Office. What does
your husband do?<br><br>Although my girls, Karellia
(7) and Morgaine and Ysolde (6), are older than your
three, I've found that having a strict routine in the
week (same time for everything - getting up, getting
dressed, meals, cleaning teeth, bedtime story etc)and then
relaxing it at the weekend works for me. I let them stay
up late on Friday and Saturday nights watching
videos so that they sleep late the next day (doesn't
always work!!)<br><br>When my husband is at home I
always try to arrange some time to do something just for
me like a girls' night out with my friends or even
just going to the shopping centre for 2 or 3 hours by
myself (sheer bliss!!! No little voices saying 'Mummy
can we have this, Mummy can we go to MacDonalds,
Mummy my legs are tired'. Usually when I get back my
husband is 'climbing the walls' and I think you've only
had them for 3 hours - I've had them for 3
months!!!!!<br><br>Rebecca

Hi Steph and welcome to our club. In answer to
your question, this club has been set up for parents
caring for their multiples on a day to day basis alone
which from monday to friday you are. So yes you
definately SHOULD be here and I hope you benefit from being
a member of the club. <br><br>Of course we are also
there for parents caring alone full time for there
multiples as I am. I wish I was a supermum I try my best
but like everyone else I have my good days and bad
days. I have little tricks to give myself extra breaks
over the weekend like dropping my twins 6 and my
daughter 10 at the saturday cinema for the morning and
they try to be good so they get the treat. Are any of
yours at preschool yet? Three children at home all the
time can be really hard. I was so much better once
mine started nursery a few hours a week. Now they are
at full time school at least I know I have some free
time! But not a lot with 8 younger grandchildren:-)

Hi<br><br>My name is Steph and as I am only a
single parent 5 days a week I'm not sure I belong here!
My husband works away in the week and I am a
full-time mum to Jack (4 on Xmas day) and identical girls
Katelin & Charlotte (2 in November). <br><br>I'm in awe
of all of you who manage to parent multiples alone
all of the time - I'm climbing the walls be Friday
night!<br><br>I'd be interested in your tips on how to stay
sane!<br><br>Best Wishes to you all and keep up the good work you
are all supermums!<br><br>Steph

Hello Tammy, welcome to the club. I think anyone
who has twins is a Supermum, I found it extremely
hard work espcially when mine were younger, (they were
six a couple of weeks ago) but now they are at school
all day it is much easier. I am also lucky because I
am only a lone parent because my husband works
overseas for most of the year and I know he will be back
eventually, (hopefully within the next few
months).<br><br>Rebecca

Hi to everyone, Karen I have finally got time to
look at your Butta web site. Its starting to look
good. I see you are looking for help is there anything
I can do. My Boy Girl twins have finally started
school and I have time to breath! K

Hi Tammy<br><br>Welcome to the club we are also
glad you found it. Did you get a chance to look at the
www.butta.co.uk site yet which is hoped to complement this site
as it grows. Maybe you want to add a bit yourself.
We all think you are a supermom! As we all should
feel about ourselves. The job we have by choice or
design is the hardest in the world and however you
choice to face it lets hope its easier knowing there are
others out there with simular problems to turn to.
regards Karen.

Hi! My name is Tammy, and I've been parenting my
twin girls alone since the day of their birth. Amber
and Ashley are 4 1/2 years old, and will be 5 on New
Year's Eve! I am so happy to have found this club! I
feel like SuperMom 24 hours a day, and I'm always
going! I work full time, and I'm going to nursing
school. I'm very anxious to see how all of you juggle
your time, and energy. I'm in need of new ideas! I
look forward to chatting with all of you, and I'm sure
we will all be a great support for one another. Have
a Wonderful Day! Sincerely, Tammy

Hi Rebecca please let me welcome you to the club on behalf of all the members. 
It sounds like you  are kept really busy I bet you look forward to when your
husband is on leave. regards Karen:-)

Hi, I'm Rebecca and I have been alone parent of 6
year old twin girls, Morgaine and Ysolde (plus a 7
year old, Karellia) for the past year and half due to
my husband working overseas for most of the year,
(he's only home for a total of 6 weeks spread
throughout the year although we are hoping he will be coming
back to work in London permently soon so we can be a
family again.)<br><br>I have sometimes found it quite a
struggle being on my own, especially when one of the girls
have been ill or worse still when I have been unwell
myself. My nearest family lives over an hours drive away
and although I have friends I know I can call upon I
always think I should wait until I'm really desperate
before I do that (fortunately I have never been in that
situation). I also miss having someone on hand to get a
second opinion from, to tell me yes I'm making the right
decision or no that's a stupid thing to do.<br><br>But on
the whole I have got used to being on my own and
sometimes wonder how we are going to adjust when my husband
does eventually come home for good.<br><br>Rebecca

The Butta web site linked to this page is finally
working. I invite you to visit it and maybe contribute
something to it. I had the idea for the butta site a while
ago but its taken a long while to get of the drawing
board now I am looking for support from you and your
friends. So if you are or know a family of multiples
managing with only one parent doing the full time care
come join our online family. Karen

Hi! Im new to this club! My name is Jackie
Willimas, i am from Toronto, Canada. I have 4 years old
triplets (Dylan, Tyler, Isabella) and a 9 month old baby
girl Christiana. I have onced raised my triplets alone
for a year, since my husband passed away 2year ago.
Then I remarried a wonderful guy a year ago, and
together, we have Chrissy now! Things were really
difficults when you had to raised multiples alone! I know
how's it is feel like as i have actually gone thru it!
That's why i have joined this club, as i think this is
quite an interesting club for all single parents of
mutliples!!! <br><br>Anyway, thanks for setting up this
meaningful club! i would like to keep in touch with
everyone! thanks!<br>Bye!<br><br>Jackie Williams

I am starting this site to try to make a
community for all lone parents of multiples. It is not
always easy for other parents to understand just what we
go through. We can't just hand over the reins to our
partner. We are Mum and Dad to our children 24 hours a day
7 days a week. So this will be a place to share
advice with others. So why not join and add your veiws.