This list is for parents who have a child, minor or adult, who has either been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, or who has enough traits (five of nine) to qualify.

Diagnosis is not needed to join and find support.
Parenting a child, whether biological or adopted who has traits of Borderline Personality Disorder or the disorder itself can be a frightening journey into chaos, pain and confusion.

Feelings of blame, responsibility, shame, anger, frustration are all part of a healing journey. Those with the disorder are experts at blaming their problems and issues on everyone but themselves, and doing such a great job that many others (family, friends, social workers) are often fooled into blaming you, the parent for the problems.

It is NOT your fault. You did not cause the disorder. You cannot control the disorder. You cannot cure the disorder. You can take charge of your own life, create healthy boundaries and enforce them with your child, thus helping them begin a healing journey of their own, if they wish. If they do not wish, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT.

To join, simply send an email with subscribe in the subject line to ParentsOfBorderlines@yahoogroups.com You will be asked to provide a little bit of information to the Moderators, which is confidential.

This is a new group and may take some time to get up and running, so please be patient with us. And remember, a self help group is just that. Self help. The more you contribute, the more you will recieve back.


We recommend that you read the pages at www.bpd411.org and get the book Stop Walking on Eggshells, Taking Back Your Life When Someone You Love Has Borderline Personality Disorder.

The first step, in our experience, is to learn about Boundaries www.bpd411.org/boundariesintro.html , and www.bpd411.org/boundariesunhealthy.html

respectfully
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