List Description:

The purpose of the NoMoreSpanking list is support for parents who wish to discover and utilize alternatives to spanking their children. This list is not for debating, but is for providing help, information, ideas, and encouragement for those who prefer not to use corporal punishment on their children.

The point of view of this list is that punishment may control a specific behavior but that it interferes with the long-term goal of promoting self-control and that alternative nonpunitive ways of relating to children are preferred. Punishment includes hitting, spanking, swatting, shaming, ridiculing, threatening, using harsh or cruel words, penalizing, holding back rewards, or other methods that assert adult power or vent adult frustration. We are seeking alternative approaches that provide guidance to our children that will encourage self-control, thinking before acting, learning to take responsibility for their own behavior, and especially that will promote a lifelong warm, close, and open relationship between parent and child.

Questions and suggestions and support are welcome from parents, no matter what their parenting philosophies or practices, but this is not the place for argumentative posts, particularly those that justify spanking.

List Guidelines:

Do not argue against suggestions made by other list members, simply offer your own. If you disagree with someone else's advice, do not pick it apart, just offer your own alternative. Trust that the other parents reading here will consider all ideas and will try out those that appeal to them. We are not here to debate, but to suggest solutions, offer our experiences, encourage, and support each other.


Please keep your signature down to your name and a line or two. Absolutely no advertising - in sig lines or otherwise. And trim posts so that you don't quote more than necessary.

Pam Sorooshian, List Owner