Having problems with message search?
MUM-e-Mail
a newsletter to enthuse, educate, and entertain
mothers of preschoolers and their supporters
November 2005
Mothering Maxim – Discipline
Because it is the most character building, two-letter word in the English language, children have the right to hear their parents say "No" at least three times a day. – John Rosemond
Mum Moment - Discipline Techniques that Work
§ Following through with what you say
§ Being consistent
§ Modelling appropriate behaviour
§ Being firm yet kind or fair
§ Clearly stating expectations before child has engaged in undesirable act
§ Giving a child a choice only when you intend to accept that choice
§ Rewarding positive behaviour and ignoring negative behaviour (except when dangerous, destructive, or embarrassing)
§ Making the child feel worthwhile, liked and successful
§ Removing child from the situation
§ Providing consequence for misbehaviour immediately after undesirable act is performed
§ Providing when-then statements: “When you have... then you may.”
§ Shaping nonexistent behaviours
§ Providing if-then statements: “If you have...then you may.”
§ Abuse it/ lose it
§ Redirecting misbehaviour; distracting or swapping ‘desirable’ for ‘undesirable’ object
From A Mother’s Heart
In teaching our children boundaries and limits, we need to be calmly consistent and wanting to build a trustworthy relationship between us and our children:
1. What did you do wrong?
2. Why was that wrong?
3. What will you do differently next time?
4. Hug and pray with your child.
Mum-etc Snippets and e-bits that may interest you …
[these websites and their contents are not necessarily endorsed by MOPS NZ]
http://www.rosemond.com/ Parenting by the Book – affirmative parenting
http://parentingbythebook.com/index.php?action=websiteview&WebSiteID=245&WebPageID=5551 Heb 12:11
http://parentingbythebook.com/index.php?action=websiteview&WebSiteID=245&WebPageID=5558 Prov 22:6
http://parentingbythebook.com/index.php?action=websiteview&WebSiteID=245&WebPageID=5559 Prov 22:15
Checked out mops.org lately? : http://www.mops.org/site_listing.php?src=sitemap
http://www.preschoolersandpeace.com/ - preschoolers in the home - charts, circle time
Mum's Mail*
Many thanks for the constant trickle of encouragement from you, the readers. I’m the kind of person who can go for 2 weeks on a kind word and a smile. (I’m easily bought!)
Hey, we’re all human – I’m sure we all get a burst from praise, just as our children do. –
Blessings on you all, Johanna
May you have courage to deeply love your child/ren through the roller coaster ride called LIFE.
Yours faithfully,
Johanna Whittaker
mumemail@... *letters*, feedback, questions, mother’s tips*, ideas welcome
on behalf of MOPS (NZ) Inc. http://MOPSNZ.bravehost.com
© 2005 by MOPS New Zealand Inc and MOPS International.
You are welcome to forward this MUM-e-Mail in its entirety to your friends, mothers of preschoolers and their supporters. If your friend has forwarded this to you and you wish to subscribe, it's easy. Click on this hyperlink and send blank email to: mum-e-mail-subscribe@yahoogroups.com .
Offline 
Send Email