Membership is restricted to men who are married (in the past, present or considering in the future) to a lesbian or bisexual woman. There is also an expectation that you are seeking help in coping with the challenges of being in a Mixed Orientation Marriage (MOM) and that you desire to have a more positive relationship with your spouse.

MMTL is intended to be a supportive environment in which men are free to express their hurt, anger, and confusion. Our goal is to facilitate a process of emotional healing through sharing of knowledge, strength and hope. We share our stories - good and bad, staying together or not - with each other because it helps to write about our own experiences and to read others'.

If you have no desire to work on improving the relationship (apart or together) then MMTL is not the appropriate group to join. The Straight Spouse Network (SSN) http://www.ssnetwk.org/ lists several other groups that you may find more helpful.

In making your request to join MMTL, please include a brief description of your current situation, confirming that you are a man married to a lesbian or bisexual woman and that you have a desire to have a positive relationship with you partner. Please keep in mind, having a desire for a positive relationship is what is required. MMTL realizes that at the moment your relationship may not be positve.