Randy, I agree that if someone receives a revelation that they should
marry a certain person, he/she shouldn't declare that revelation to the
intended party. As you suggested on another point in your post, the
other has his/her free agency to accept the proposal or not. If it was
stated that it was a revelation, this could backfire, because it seems
to imply the intended would have no choice in this matter. I think
women, in particular, resist that mechanism.

When I was an adult single, after my first divorce, I saw a lot of this
first-hand. That tactic usually or always failed. One single sister
taught me an insight that could be very true: When a person receives an
"affirmative" over the question of marrying a certain individual, given
that the recipient is telling the truth, it's probably not actually
"you must," but it's God saying, "That's okay with me."

-- Sam

On Apr 13, 2009, at 7:48 PM, Randy Richardson wrote:

> I would think that if one received a revelation to make a suggestion
> to another, that consideration ought to be given to the idea that it
> might not be necessary to tell the friend that it is a revelation. 
> For example, if a single man receives a revelation that he is to marry
> a particular woman, he is probably better off finding other ways to
> persuade her, other than citing his personal revelation.


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